I've posted on here before with this problem but once again seek the advice of the MN jury.
In a nut-shell I have known for a while that my MIL has a drink problem - she's always 'liked' a drink - but just recently I have noticed on 2 occasions her swigging 'privately' from a vodka bottle during a family party... I have asked my DP to talk to her about this, which he has done, and she has admitted she has a problem and since (allegedly) cut out the vodka swigging habit. She does however continue to drink wine, altho not excessively it would seem, altho it is hard to guage this as we live 2 hours away and see her irregularly.
She has recently been asking to have DS age5 to stay for the weekend and while my DP has said 'That should be fine, but I'll check with DP', (he even has a weekend in mind - NEXT weekend) I am not so sure....
BIL has been to stay over the last couple of days and he sees MIL regularly. He seems to think that everything is ok, that he has only seen her drinking once lately and otherwise she has been fine ie not really drinking.
The problem is I'm NOT fine with this. The whole subject worries me and the thought of DS going there for the weekend worries me. It seems to me that DP has virtually ok'd this with her and as a result I feel I should be ok with it too.... she is his mother afterall...
I think one of my problems is with trusting her... the whole sneaking about swigging vodka thing openned my eyes to a part of her I didnt even know existed and as a result I spose I now have trust issues with her. Also since my DP had his chat with her, there seems to have been almost no follow-up and I feel that her problems have been swept under the carpet and not really addressed atall.
Am I making a big thing out of this or does this sound reasonable to you?
I just dont believe that you can go from swigging neat vodka from a bottle to just a glass of wine here and there and be totally ok? I could be wrong tho - opinions please.....