To wonder what's wrong with being proud and putting it on FB?

[NoobyNoob]

A thread over on chat has got me a little miffed here

Really, what IS wrong with posting something like this? If I saw this on my newsfeed, I'd think well done to the child. It's no different to someone posting on here saying how proud they are is it?

Since becoming a Mum last year, DS is doing an awful lot of little achievements - and whilst I don't post every single one on Facebook, there have been moments like his first steps, first birthday etc which have gone onto FB simply because I'm so so proud of him.

If people don't like what they see on Facebook, why don't they just come off or hide the poster?

Five - have I missed something? The only comment from a teacher I've read was about c&ping being innapropriate, not the comments in the report.

As for status updates, I share moments I'm proud of. Friends without dc tend to ignore the ones about my dc but will comment on other updates. I'm sure if my 'friends' don't want to see they will hide me.

Sorry, to be clear I had read the original thread as well and the whole thing has wound me up. Such negativity, mostly on the other thread.

But "I think that status was vomitous.
As a teacher, I would be making an issue of c&p reports. I think a generic statement about what's been covered is fine, as are odd c&p phrases relevant to more than one student, adapted as appropriate. But wholesale impersonal reporting is out of order imo."...................

You boast talk to grandparents/partners/possible good friends, in other words people who might be interested - otherwise it is bragging and no one likes a bragger as mentioned up thread. Urghhhhhh!

Maybe the difference lies with people who have all and sundry as their facebook friends. I can't understand having 200 or upwards people on your friends list. They're not friends, just nosey buggers. Most of my friends are pleased when i am pleased about something my DC's do, or there to offer words of sympathy when one of them is poorly or upset, as i am for them. It's what real friends do.......

I don't see child-related status updates as any different to people banging on about their car/house/job tbh.

that may well be my status......

To be fair I dont think it is because I have a DD not DS and I didnt put actual words on from the report, just her achievements.

I did this because im very proud of her, but also because her useless dad who doesnt bother to come see her or send her a birthday card and his family will see it. I want them to see how special my little girl is and how despite their fuckwittedness she is, and will be a success.

I hardly ever update about her at other times aswell, there is no "DD woke up and went to school, DD said something funny, DD ate dinner" etc etc type stuff.

The reason it is not on is because it does not respect the child's privacy. My dn has to spend a lot of his time shushing his mum because he can see that her fond bragging is ruinous for his street cred.

Imagine if your dh put up a facebook message saying "My wife is so beautiful, she really is more beautiful than any of her friends" and adding testimonials from other men who have thought so. Or if you put up: "my husband is so intelligent, his boss says he is the brightest in the company". How long would that take for you to live down?

A child is a person too. They have a right not to be embarrassed in public just so other people can feel good about themselves.

I think it's a bit like MN, some things are interesting to some people but not to others. In the same way that BFing threads on here are relevant to those with babies but make parents of older children go 'OMG, not again, '.

I have a 16mo and have lots of FB frinds with toddlers the same age. I like hearing about what new things they're doing. But even if people posts updates on things that aren't directly relevant or interesting to me, I still care because they care, they're my friends and for that reason I give a shit about what makes them happy etc.

I guess if you have a lot of FB 'friends' who you don't actually like, you might not give a crap. Or if people are really laying on the smugness, it warrants an eye roll. But maybe that's your problem for not filtering your FB friends properly.

Theres nothing wrong with being proud of your children but its only likely to be grandparents that are interested - children that are not your own dont interest most people.

I have to admit I tend to hide those who brag about their children or post everytime the child moves.