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To be annoyed with Sister over this

43 replies

MigGril · 08/07/2011 08:38

So Basically I'm having a bit of a rant but. My sister yesterday got my dad to look after her DD while she went to the dentist. As her DD couldn't go to nursery yesterday due to having been violently sick during the night.

I think she should have just cancelled said dentist appointment rather then inflict a most likely highly contagious child on my dad, who's in he's 60's although quit fit. I actually don't think that really matters I would never think of asking someone else to look after a sick (as in V&D) child. It just wouldn't cross my mind to possibly spread it to someone else.

For the record she currently on maternity leave so her DD still goes to nursery but doesn't have to as she's not at work.

OP posts:
wakeupandsmellthecoffee · 08/07/2011 09:59

you dont like your sister and for whatever reason any thing she does you will try and make out she is in the wrong . Take a close look at yourself . Seriously .

JanMorrow · 08/07/2011 10:07

people in their 60's can still operate as normal human beings, SHOCK HORROR!

Ormirian · 08/07/2011 10:09

Well personally I wouldn't inflict a vomitting child on anyone else no matter how old they are.

titchy · 08/07/2011 10:11

It was the dentist FFS - not a weekend in Ibiza!

amistillsexy · 08/07/2011 10:13

my own DD goes to pre school but I don't need her to

Presumably, then, you could have offered to look after the child yourself whilst your sis went to the dentist.

plupervert · 08/07/2011 10:15

There are things that one has to do, as a SAHM, which are massively inconvenient if the baby is there: not fair on the baby or on the dentist. She planned the appointment for a nursery day, so was actually being quite responsible about it.

As for care when the child unexpectedly couldn't go to nursery, would it have been all right for a fond granny to look after the girl? Because it's okay for women to nurse children through the worst D&V situations?

FilthyDirtyHeathen · 08/07/2011 10:18

But she didn't ask just anyone to look after her kid, she asked her dad. I would look after my sister's sick kids or my SILs sick kids if they needed me to and vice versa. It's family innit.

Abra1d · 08/07/2011 10:20

Being in your sixties isn't exactly ancient!

Sidge · 08/07/2011 10:21

Dental appointments are important and if her dentist is anything like mine, she would have to wait 2 months for another appointment if she tried to reschedule it.

It's only a bit of puke and if your dad is otherwise fit and well it's not going to kill him to look after a vomiting child for an hour. I'm sure he dealt with puking kids of his own.

skybluepearl · 08/07/2011 10:34

i'm sure dad was keen to help out - can't see what problem is

IronOrchid · 08/07/2011 11:11

Your sister's BU - she shouldn't ask anyone to look after a sick child. It's selfish to put someone in that position.

YANBU.

CurrySpice · 08/07/2011 11:14

Was she still being sick or had she just been sick in the night?

Because mine are mostly as right as rain the next day Hmm

Mumwithadragontattoo · 08/07/2011 11:24

YABU - it is up to your Dad. Your sister might have really needed to see the dentist (it isn't always just a check up). Or it may be very difficult to get dental appts at her surgery. Or she might have been too late to cancel without being charged.

Ilythia · 08/07/2011 11:25

If ym dd's were being sick and I needed to go out I would ask family to watch her, and in fact have done when FIL and MIL have been staying. It's not like she abandoned her witha stranger fgs, she was with her grandad.

mummyosaurus · 08/07/2011 11:28

I am going against the tide. YANBU.

My step sister and sister do this all the time.

18 months ago my dad had a quadruple heart bypass, about 6 mths after this, while he was days away from another op (kidney stones/possible removal of 1 kidney), my step sister had him looking after her DD, who couldn't go to nursery because she had been sick. Had my Dad caught it his op would have had to be postponed and his recovery affected. I was fuming.

My dad never says no because he loves his grandchildren and likes to be useful. My step sister and sister take the piss all the time. Dropping the kids off so they can go shopping, sleep in etc.

It has occurred to me that I am a bit jealous, he would have my kids for me, but tends to let them watch loads of telly and eat family size bags of crisps (plus my step mother is a real witch, and I don't like leaving them with her as she resents it).

Maybe both of us need to get a life! Wink

PaperView · 08/07/2011 11:33

but she did need the childcare....for a dentist appointment.

PrincessScrumpy · 08/07/2011 12:28

If your dad was happy to have her then what's the problem - he's a grown up and could have said no. Not your business.

AuntiePickleBottom · 08/07/2011 13:34

i bet your dad is more and capable of looking after a sall ill child, i have women 60+ working in a hospital and they are expose to alot more than vomiting.

your sister had a dental appoinment, not getting her hair and nails done fgs

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