To think that the fact I dont like dogs is a good reason not to get one.

[MarioandLuigi]

DH wants a dog, I dont.

Tonight he brought the subject up again and the conversation went a bit like this

DH -Why dont you want a dog?
Me - I dont like dogs
DH - thats not a real reason
Me - It is
DH - it isnt!

And on and on.

Just to add before anyone thinks I am being mean, DH works very long hours all week, which means it will be muggins doing all the walking and cleaning up after. I have pointed this out to him before but apparently thats just an excuse.

What planet is your husband on?

A dog is a major commitment. It's not a fucking pot plant.

YANBU.

Of course YANBU.

I love my dog, but I don't like rabbits. If DD said she wanted a rabbit, I know I'd be the one looking after it and even though I'm sure they're less work than dogs I wouldn't want one. End of.

If your DH loves dogs, maybe he can volunteer at a rescue, do some walking ... not lumber you.

When my DH says 'I want a dog' I respond with 'I want a baby' and that usually shuts him up.

He has recently been made redundant and is thinking of doing some dog walking - he won't make much money but he'll be able to enjoy taking dogs out for a walk, so hopefully that will compensate a bit.

Honestly, if he did get a dog I would leave him, and I mean it.

Or he could offer to walk dogs of elderly neighbors. Before work, after work. He could clean up their yards of dog poop while he is at it. If he could do that routinely for six months--when it's hot, raining, icy, bitterly cold, and if he brushed them and cut their nails, and played fetch with them, then...........he'd be a really good neighbor!

I'm not a dog person, and resisted one for yonks, as I foresaw, quite correctly, that I would be the one who housetrained the little fecker.

We got one, I trained it in a two-week term holiday, though by the end I had a tic in my face (rental carpets/urine interface). The thing I hated was the way he began to fear me and love everyone else.

All sorted now. DH, as he has from day one, walks the dog every morning at 6.00.a.m. and the second long walk is taken seasonally by DD/me/DH.

He is fabulous, loveable, but it only works because everyone joins in.

Disclaimer; we have an off-leash area where dogs can go nuts 24/7 very close to our house. And the sea.

You are right not to back down.

I am a dog lover. Dh is not. It was beyond my comprehension that once faced with a gorgeous slobbery cuddly hairy adorable dog he wouldn't change his mind... but he didn't . He never did like her. It was okay because I looked after her and he loved me enough to put up with her.

Don't do it. My friend got one the same time as we did after repeated nagging from the rest of the family. Her DH promised faithfully that he would get up and walk it, pick up poo etc. She's the one out walking twice a day, feeding, grooming, poo picking, he rarely does it as working lots. She won't walk in the woods on the day so the dog only gets pavement walks when really she needs a good run off lead, has put on weight and is currently very unsettled.

You don't need a reason to NOT get one.

I have told my lot that when my old cat dies (she has really suffered with this last move and I have to put her through at least one more - the last thing she needs to deal with is a dog) and when DS2 is not such a PITA, I may consider a dog.

I will be doing all the work so I get the final say.

YADNBU

A dog is a big commitment and one that should only be taken on if you really want one.

My DH and I love dogs but we wouldn't get one atm, because we don't think it would be fair on the dog with our other current commitments. (work, DC, etc.)

DH and DC want a dog, they put quite a lot of pressure on me.

DH doesn't understand, as he knows I like dogs.

Thing is, we have a nice (ish) house and I don't like the way in England dogs are allowed on sofas (that would mean a LOT of cleaning and a smelly sofa and dog hairs on all my clothes).

I would HATE having dog poo to scoop up in my lovely garden, and having to shout "Look out for poo everywhere" if kids come to play in my garden (like all dog people I know do).

I would dread the house training responsibilities (mine).

Fact is, H is away on business a lot. He barely sees the children during the week. So it is me for 95% of time doing the looking after. H would like a dog for Sunday walks I guess. hell, I'd like a dog if I only have to walk it Sundays!!!
(He has a time consuming hobby at weekends).

So I would lose my freedom big time. So I say no.

H and MIL say I am not fair as I have always known H likes dogs.

I just think in the current set up it would not be fair on me.

YANBU, and more to the point, why is DH so desperate to get one if HE won't even be looking after it?