AIBU to find my friend's moaning about the upcoming summer holidays irritating...

[joric]

She hates the holidays, I love them
I work, she is a SAHM
We both have only child DD - school age
Both our DH work approx 5 weeks out if the 6
Neither of us have family close by
She has a zillion friends where she lives, people are round for lunch regularly. I have a fewer friends and because of work don't see them often in the week.

She is moaning about her loss of free time- doesn't know what she is going to do with her DD and is arguing with her DH about him being at work.

She is starting to p* me off

Maybe try to suggest things for her to do? Help her a little?

You know Nooby, I did this last summer, she came with us on a camping trip I had arranged with another friend. Also included her in other trips and we met up just the 4 of us as well. I have decided she is a moaner and a taker as she went on many days out with friends of hers and we were not included. I have CTTC that she is quite selfish :(

Well my DS only started school nursery in Jan so this is my first summer hols, Im dreading it. For them more than me, i feel so bloomin gulity all the time. For good reason too :( I cant provide anywhere near the entertainment they deserve so i feel sorry for them :(

Baby- no, don't feel like that.. Believe me, we don't have people banging on the door every day to go out - we really do plod along.. Park, cinema, train into city, library, shops, stay in , weed garden, bake and eat cake, go swimming, find a new play park, mystery tour... I worry like mad about DD being lonely but we invite a couple of friends round too now and then ... Wish we had young neighbours but we haven't. It's takes effort but just go with each day. My DH is at work but we have transport which is a big +.)

you see op that's why it's harder for some sahm's as that is what we do all the time and sometimes you just want a change. i would be happy to go to work for a while in the summer and let someone else entertain the kids. now THAT would be a holiday for me

"friends" aren't allowed to talk about how they feel to each other? Or is it just that you are unable to appreciate a different viewpoint to yourself?

With friends like that......

Exactly stranded. Ds only goes to preschool three mornings a week but that's our only time away from each other and we both benefit from it. Our holidays is seven weeks! I also work from home and those mornings are when I make most of my money, so I'll be taking a pay drop too. So no, I'm not really looking forward to the holidays, but I resent the implication from some that that means I don't want to spend time with my child. Apart from the mornings when he is at preschool I am like bloody Mary Poppins.

MrsTeak - I could cut and paste all of my posts for you but won't. She is entitled to her opinion but I am entitled to disagree with her.

we're on holidays now and loving them!! OH is away working so its just DD and me at home plus the evil cat who farts in my face daily we've been staying up late, watching cartoons eating meals at all the wrong times and snacking on donuts and custard!! we'll get our act together next week this is our first week off and we are slobbing and loving it

YABU... i dread the long school hols.
9th July till 5th Sept... an eternity... and Ds gets so bored and all he wants to do is sit and watch TV. We are away for nearly 3 weeks of it....but that still leaves another 5 weeks....aaaghghhh!
I love it when they are at school.......

so what is your point? You are leaping for joy, she is not. And for some reason her thoughts piss you off. You don't sound like a very nice friend.

I'm dreading it cos my 12 yr old won't go anywhere without complaining and moaning all the while we are out. I have give up on day trips etc. Older
dc goes out on own.

He is attached to the computer at every available moment. The only plus is that I don't have to get him up for 6 weeks.

I can see what you mean, she doesn't seem grateful for having her daughter home but she is not old enough to leave on her own, unlike me, I have a little freedom to leave him.

I'm on maternity leave over summer so am sort of SAHM for now. I can't wait. My sons are 12 weeks and 12 years so a big gap but especially for DS1 it will be great to be around. He can chill out at home instead of having to go to friends or relatives. I was a student when he was in infants so got holidays then and loved it. Each to their own but the freedom of no work and no school is brilliant. Dreading having to go back later on. I think when you have to work and don't want to (either at all or at that moment!) hearing SAHMs complain about being at home with the kids can really grate. No offence intended, I'm sure SAHM complain about working mums too! :o

Is my positivity irritating you MrsTeak? What would you suggest I said to her?

Other than telling her pretty much what I said to baby 10 posts up I don't know what else a person can say.

say you don't agree and then change the subject. Or you could say nothing and then tell the world on the internet what a shitty parent she is and how much she annoys you. Cos thats how I treat my friends, obviously.

Wow - I would just not say anything to her. I'm afraid your positivity is a little annoying to those of us who DO find the holidays difficult. I find your total inability to even try and see things from her point of view a little puzzling. I totally see where you - as a working out of home mother - are coming from; however, you don't seem to want to even contemplate the fact that for someone who is at home all the time with her children, the prospect of 5/6 weeks without a break is quite difficult. Give her a break and until you've walked in her shoes, I wouldn't be too hard on her.

just ignore it.
I dread the idea of 6 weeks, but like having her home once it comes,

Right at the start I said in reply to another post 'Maryz- no, she's not broke, far from it!! Lots of friends and has transport maybe she is depressed but I don't know- she's always telling me about all the things she does during school hours. I also appreciate it's a change for me- whist being at home isn't a change for her.' I feel some sympathy for her but not a huge deal .. Sorry.

Shoesy- will do!

MsTeak- are you not reading my posts? Earlier, I said that I had said pretty muc the same as this to her at first Baby- no, don't feel like that.. Believe me, we don't have people banging on the door every day to go out - we really do plod along.. Park, cinema, train into city, library, shops, stay in , weed garden, bake and eat cake, go swimming, find a new play park, mystery tour... I worry like mad about DD being lonely but we invite a couple of friends round too now and then ... Wish we had young neighbours but we haven't. It's takes effort but just go with each day not much more to add to that - it's hardly saying nothing.

perhaps you should have gone with nothing, because thats all very condescending. Do you want a medal for your own brilliance?

You're very good at labelling me MsTeak and v sarcastic. You contribute very little of worth to the conversation though IMO.
There are others on here who agree and disagree with me who are worth listening to.

I like the mix i have - I work part time, just mornings, so will still have time in the afternoons - my two (7 & 9) will be off to various holiday clubs, etc, and love it!

But I can see where she is coming from - 6 weeks full on is tough, I have done it in the past and not overly enjoyed it all.

I always think the hols are ok if you have some money and the weather is good!

Agree silverstar, A mix of stuff- free and paid for mixed with good weather ... It's rained for nearly all of the last 2 Augusts. Fingers crossed for sun! :)