Help Broody at 27!

[Chocoholic27]

Dear all out there, was wondering if anyone out there has any words of advice! I am 27yrs old and have been very broody for a couple years!! I do feel as though I am emotionally, physically and mentally mature enough!
My boyfriend is 33yrs old and is not interested in having children now, I dont know when but just not now...maybe 3 years or 5 years! Who knows?

I have 3 ways of dealing with this, just ignoring it and hoping it goes away until my earlies by which time, we should have more financial security. The second being I just immerse myself in my career (accountancy) and make loads of money. Or thirdly keep reminding him about the baby thing.

Help!!!

I would leave him tbh, he might want kids in five years, thats not much of a prospect really. Your fertility will have declined his on the other will still be fine and he will have all the time in the world. Leave him go on match.com and look for someoen who wants kids if its important to you

I think that you need to discuss this with your boyfriend sooner rather than later.

My DP spent many years avoiding the issue of children and because we weren't in an "ideal" situation to have children I just bimbled along with the idea that we would have children eventually and it was no big deal. I think DP was very good at putting up barriers to having children without actively saying that he didn't want a family. For instance he knew that I wanted to get married before having a baby so he used to be very resistant to any talk of marriage.

I got so broody that everything came to a head and we had a big discussion where I basically told him that if we weren't going to have a baby then at the very least our relationship would be in big trouble. Strangely this seemed to give him the kick up the backside to actually face the issue and properly think it through which I think he had spent years avoiding doing. He decided that while a child was the not the be all and end all for him he did want to start a family.

We started trying for a baby 15 months ago and nothing. I am almost 36 and am now very worried that we have left it too late. I have had fertility investigations and because of my age been advised to have IVF which was a massive shock. I am now worried that I have very little time left and wish that we had started trying years ago. If I am honest I feel very angry with my DP for making us wait and possibly denying me the chance of motherhood. I try to keep a lid on this but I do wonder what the impact on our relationship would be if I never have a baby. I think I fell into the trap of believing that so many women have babies into their thirties that there was no issue with waiting. I know now that I was very was naive & not pushing this issue with my DP earlier has been a massive mistake.