No idea if i'm being unreasonable or not but it does/did feck me off when this happens.
In park today, and bumped into friend of DP and wife who came and sat with us for a bit. DP and mate go and get ice creams for us, leaving me with wifey, who i've met once before (and who is very nice by the way, I like her). DS (5 months) starts crying as is a bit tired and has been under-the-weather anyway. I pick him up and start to comfort him, knowing that he'll eventually have a zizz on me. Wifey leans over after less than a minute and when i'm not even remotely looking stricken, and before I know it has taken DS with a "here, let me have a go" and proceeds to pace up and down the area of the park jigging DS and swinging him around on his front. Unsurprisingly this doesn't work, and after watching through gritted teeth for a while I sort of grow some balls and suggest that DS might want a lie down instead and she hands him back.
My cleaner also does this if DS cries when she's around and declares that he is hungry whilst jiggling the poor sod (I know he's not), as does DPs Aunty, AND a work colleague of DPs who everytime we bump into her asks for a cuddle (fine) but will not hand DS back unless asked, even if he's bawling.
For the record, I like all of these people, but don't know them that well. Is it just me being a possessive nutter of DS, or AIBU to think that I would never just pick up/take someone-who-I-don't-know-that-well's baby without them asking me to hold, or me asking to have a cuddle with (non-crying) baby?
I'm guessing people are just being nice and thinking they're trying to help, and that if i'm not happy I should grow nuts and just straight-up ask for him back or not give him to them, but that's sometimes easier said than done if you don't want to offend anyone.... am I weird or is this normal behaviour?