to think cousin is very wrong

[Waswildatheart]

just heard my cousin has had his first daughter and that they have called her by the same name as my brothers eldest. The names are identical so now my dad and his brother have granddaughters with the same name. I think this is really wrong and really feel for my niece, who is away travelling and does not know yet! AIBU?

[giraffesCantZumba]

laquitar Silly question but when you said cousins (plural) do you mean the eldest in each set of cousins or like siblings all called bob?!

[Scholes34]

We've loads of duplicates in the family and why up north we talk about "our Kate", "your Kate", "our Joan's Kate" etc.

[LiegeAndLief]

My dc have the same names as two of my (grown-up) cousins. I didn't ever think it would be a problem, certainly didn't ask permission or anything, and they have never indicated that they didn't like it. Although I don't see them very often and the names are pretty common.

I think as your niece is grown up, surely it doesn't really matter?

[superjobeespecs]

we're giving our DS my grandad and my cousins name as a middle name, cousin was named after our grandad and whilst i know he'd be fine if we used it as his first name which was our original idea my aunt is precious and would forever bang on about how the baby was named after my cousin the daft bore. even tho he kind of is cos my grandad died before i was born and my cousin is a fantastic guy he was one of my best friends growing up but still

[Grabaspoon]

It's not Isabella Eve is it?

[pinkdelight]

You're all very reasonable people! I would be a bit cheesed off about this. My son really defines himself by his name and even gets a bit freaked out if we use the bowl with his name on. He'll grow out of it of course, especially as his name is fairly common and he's bound to meet a few. But still, heritage names notwithstanding, you'd think within a family they'd want to be a bit more original. So go on OP, I think you're justified in having a good old seethe.

[diddl]

I think that it´s odd unless there´s a tradition of it.

I know that nobody owns a name, but would be annoyed if a cousin of mine used the names that we have.

Seems that there are enough names to choose from!

[quirrelquarrel]

About five people in my family have the first name Jean. My mum's cousin, her two brothers, other extended family...only there's another name hyphenated onto it.

[youarekidding]

grab

Think as it's a different generation so to speak shouldn't be a problem.

I would be a little if a cousin named their child the same as DS as they would grow up together or even my sister or brother. But I'd get over it as I don't own the name.

DS incidently is named after his paternal great grandfather.

[unpa1dcar3r]

I'd be flattered if someone in the family called their child the same as me!
I have insisted that my daughters sons (if they have any) are to have my dads middle name somewhere in their name. What's the difference?