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AIBU?

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Original poster

to want to shut myself and away and cut myself off from family!

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LilQueenie · 01/07/2011 15:42

So Im 2 days overdue and cannever reach my father on the phone. So after 2 weeks I get some contact to let him know Im near the due date and can he be ready for a call to say baby has arrived. Its important to me he is one of the first to know before other family members/friends/strangers. (this is especially due to something that happened when I was born) Since then we have had nothing but calls up to twice a day asking if anything has happened. Ive now decided not to tell anyone until after she is born and am having a really difficult time. AIBU not to tell anyone anything? I feel like everyone wants to know whats happening with my body and its bloody personal. Also why make an effort to contact now when you never made the effort before? Ive been agitated and upset most days since this has been happening and no longer looking forward to the birth/ days after it.

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hellospoon · 01/07/2011 19:14

I don't understand any of your post but what I think your saying is you wanted you dad to be in contact and now he is in contact you don't want him to be in contact with you.

Way to pfb. You can't have it all ways! Regardless of your pregnancy status!

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LilQueenie · 01/07/2011 19:16

no its not I just wanted him to know that soon there may be a call to let him know he is a grandfather so that if I tried to call he may actually get it. I can call up and get nowhere for weeks on end usually. He doesnt check his answer machine.

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LilQueenie · 01/07/2011 19:17

If I didnt tell him he would take a bloody strop about it and go into a huff.

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BornInAfrica · 01/07/2011 19:21

Talk about a huge old pile of something and nothing! You do sound incredibly precious and rather as though you don't have a single real thing to worry about.

worraliberty · 01/07/2011 19:22

What's wrong with asking about your MW appointments? Confused

Honestly, if this was a wedding you'd be labelled 'Bridezilla' I'm not sure what the Mum to be equivalent of that is?

Just try not to piss too many people off. You're probably just hormonal and grumpy..that's understandable, but at the same time it's not a crime for people to be interested in your pregnancy and forthcoming birth.

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LilQueenie · 01/07/2011 19:23

then please tell me why I am so irritated by the whole thing and crying a lot over it and dreading getting up in the mornings to face more questions? Thats not normal.

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worraliberty · 01/07/2011 19:26

Hard to say without knowing you.

It might be hormones and stress, or you might be a naturally difficult person?

sundayrose10 · 01/07/2011 19:27

Talk about a huge old pile of something and nothing!

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LilQueenie · 01/07/2011 19:27

I would say hormones and stress. Ive had a lot of stress yes. Ima total daddys girl but as I got older he stayed as childish as ever and now somany clashes I think its a bit of both.

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LilQueenie · 01/07/2011 19:31

actually reading the title I should state for a few weeks I feel like shutting off not forever. I realise that makes it sound so harsh.I just feel the need to so much space right now.

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worraliberty · 01/07/2011 19:34

Really, all this will be a distant memory when the baby arrives.

PinkSchmoo · 01/07/2011 19:49

I think you are very stressed about your impending leap into childbirth and parenthood and rightly so. I was a raving basket case from 39 weeks with DD until she arrived 8 days late and was profoundly irritated by "any news" (of course there bloody isn't) combined with people wanting anatomical detail of my mw appointments (what is a sweep, what do they stretch it with, are you sure that's normal?)

I do think YABU but to be honest your posts aren't hugely clear - again quite understandable.

I'd say try to keep busy and enjoy the next few hours or days of calm. Your baby will come and you'll completely fOrget about all this.

Good luck.

BaldricksTurnip · 01/07/2011 20:50

Could you just clarify what you mean by 'not putting a newborn in a carseat'?

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LilQueenie · 02/07/2011 14:26

Happy to say Ive calmed a bit now. Plus Dp has got his paternity and holidays sorted out. There was an issue with that. He also spoke to my dad and smoothed things over.

As for the car seat my dad said "you cant put a newborn in a carseat! " and would not listen when I said its the law.

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biddysmama · 02/07/2011 14:55

yanbu... ive been overdue 3 times (all born at 40+6, naturally) and im not stupid enough to tell a heavily pregnant woman she is bu Grin

mrswhiskerson · 02/07/2011 16:50

Yanbu being fed up Is part of the last stages of being pregnant and you do get a million phonecalls and feel like your body and choices are not your own but it is only because people care .
The best thing to do is hav e contact with close family
espcially your dad but be firm and tell them you will let them know as soon as something happens , they will understand if you say you are tired and need a few days rest before the baby comes.
Make the most of the attention you are getting now it sharp goes out the window once the baby is born but I mean that in the nicest possible way .
Most people love a new arrival and can be just as excited as the parents also they love you and want the best for you .
Good luck

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