To think when going out for a meal, you could put some effort into what you wear?

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DH and I getting ready to go out for a meal. I get dressed up to an extent, nice dress, new shoes, make-up, bit of jewelery etc. Come downstairs to find DH dressed in old jeans and slazenger grey hoody that he got for £5 from the discount sports shop along with old trainers. I ask why he isn't get ready, he is confused and says he IS ready. Same clothes he'd had on all day. No aftershave or anything.

Apparantly people don't "get dressed up anymore" but when we're in there, he's the only bloke without a shirt on!!

AIBU to think his lack of effort is a reflection on his lack of respect for me?

I don't know, in moral terms, whether YABU.

BUT, I can say this. It would piss me off too, so if YABU then so am I

I agree OP. I would always get washed/showered, put something clean on and do my hair and a little bit of make up, even if it was just the pizza hut. I would expect a man to wash/shower, brush hair and put clean clothes on. If it was casual then jeans and a polo type shirt would be ok, otherwise a proper shirt. It's just basic grooming to me.

YANBU. If it's a planned night out, how much effort is it to at least put on a clean shirt? I tend to dress up more than dh because I like to and that's fine, but I do at least expect him to change and look presentable. Different if you decide on the spur of the moment to pop out to your local but otherwise I think it is a bit disrespectful.