to want what he promised me?

[WelshCat]

Ugh, EXP rant. Basically he denied DS was his for ages, then decided DS was his and wanted access. So I asked him for back-maintenance since DS was born 10 months ago (single mum, noooo money, expensive babies...) of £1100 (which could be more, as CSA calc says he should pay £41 a week). He agreed to this so he now sees DS 3/4 times a week. Yet he has not given me any money.
Its not all about the money, but it is a little. He keeps lying, he has offered it to me twice for bond on my flat, baby room furniture etc, but then when i said yeah I'll have it then, he said its stuck in an ISA and he cant touch it. So i am unamused and slightly pissed off. There is way more back story which involves him being pretty mean, but I wont go into it. I am mostly annoyed coz i trusted him and stuck to my end of the deal, but he is refusing to give me what he promised me. AIBU?

Mostly though the main carer is the best person to make decisions because they know the child and if they are the ones doing everything necessary to ensure their child is properly looked after, then they are likely to act in the child's best interests. Obviously, there will be exceptions, but good parents will always do what they think is the right thing for their DC.

I don't think just seeing a child is enough to be counted as a good parent. Children need to be physically provided for and they also need to know that they are their parent's absolute priority. Refusal to support a child tells that child that they are not a priority. That, to me is harmful.

I do agree that the sooner the CSA are involved, the better.

called them today, but there is a strike lol so no progress.

also hairy, there was no DNA, as EXP claimed he could not afford it, he just rocked up one day and said he believes DS is his now.