To think that this is a shit excuse not to come to my mum's funeral?

[toptramp]

My poor dad. Seems like noone on his side of the family are coming to support him at his wife's funeral (my mum) next Tuesday.
His auntie who I always quite liked wrote him a card saying her and her husband can't come because she is the president of the local patchwork society and that day is their last session before the new term and she has to give them the syllabus for the nest term.

So move it to another day you dense cow. Or at least get your husband to come.This is a shit excuse isn't it? I am so and

Also his brother and his wife can't come because they are holiday in Suffolk. OK it's a 3 hour drive but so what? It's his brother and he should make the effort.

AIBU to cut that lot off for this reason?

Sorry for your loss.

In your place I would be calling them and guilting them into going to be honest, for your dad's sake.

oh that is horrendous. i have a huge family and if ever there is a funeral, i have had family members travelling from england (we are in northern ireland) canada and texas to be there for the funerals. if tehre is one time in life where you need family nearby it is when you have lost the person you were closest to in teh world.

so sorry for your loss.

Can't believe that

I would ring.

Very sorry about your mother. I think your family are being disgusting, I don't know if cutting them out is a good idea... but personally, I woudl find it difficult myself.

YADNBU.

I'd cut the lot of them out. I feel sorry for you and your father. My condolences.

At my MIL funeral a whole section of familly came out of the woodwork that I had NEVER met and I've been married to her son for 10yrs.
I asked my DH who they were and they were the sister and brother of MIL, I did not even know about them.
They had not talked to MIL and FIL for over 50yrs but came to see her cremated.
Now THAT was sick! , they did not get invited for the lunch after though.

I'm so sorry for your loss. This is an incredibly hard time for you and your dad, so just be there for each other.

Your relatives are behaving appalingly. So selfish. But just let them get on with it. You have enough to deal with just now, don't think too closely about them or their reasons for not coming. YOU are there for your dad, and you are his side of the family.

And if anyone asks at the funeral, be sure to tell them why your great aunt and uncle aren't there. Shame on them.

So sorry about your darling mum.

Your relatives are being twats. I'd have nothing more to do with them.

Hearing ripeberry's comments does complicate the issue. I totally understand why she was upset that people never came to visit but still came to the funeral.

On the other hand, really I don't know what is worse - not being close and yet still coming to the funeral (How hypocritical, why did you bother) or not being close and missing the funeral (OK you weren't close, but this is the last thing you could do for that person, how could you not even manage to do that?)

I think the difference is members of the immediate family wanting them there. There were people my mum did not want at the funeral and people she did.