A question to you.

[livinginaparadise]

My husband said he is happy to give his family financial support. But I have never seen anyone who gives their parents or family financial support in the UK when they become adults.

Have you?

Surely it's the least you can do though? Considering?

Yes, if they need it.

Eh??

More info needed

no, why should i?

Yes, regularly. He should still take your wishes into consideration though.

Anglo asians do it all the time

also this is very common with travellers ect i don't think this is odd rather sweet as long as you can afford it

I'd like to think that when my parents retire I'll be in the position to put something in their bank account every month. They've never been well off but are likely to be far worse off in retirement. It's payback for all the years they supported me through uni, etc,

His first loyalty as a married man is to you and any children you may have. It is not ok to support extended family if this leaves you short. You do not say whether he belongs to any ethnic group for whom supporting of parents is the norm.

We have supported mil on the past when she has needed it. I don't think it is that rare!

Yabu

bibbity, you stole the words from my mouth... why is this in AIBU?

lissie "no, why should i?"

If it's your parents and you are financially able, if they have supported you throughout your life then that's a reason why.

Of course I understand if this is not the case why you would not want to.

but i wouldnt expect ds to support us. I dont see feeding, clothing, housing him as a loan.

I would help them out if they needed it, but certainly not support them. they are adults and have made the financial decisions themselves that led them to this point, just as I wouldnt expect them to support me.