DS is nearly six, very smart and loving, but finds it difficult to concentrate. I rarely manage to get his attention from the first time, but when I'm patient it works no problem. When DH is around and asks him to do something DS usually does not listen and the fight is off: DH starts to shout and threatens, he gets this vicious, scary look on his face and DS starts to cry. Then DH gets annoyed his son is crying like a baby and puts him on the naughty step. Whe I ask later "do you know why you get told off by daddy?" he often replys "no". I try to tell DH that this doesn't work because DS just gets scared of his shouts and doesn't learn anything. He thinks I'm too soft. But it breaks my heart to be a witness of all that. AIBU?