For thinking my mum could be more supportive?

[Lorenz]

I'm a single parent and my mum has always said "you know I'll have the kids if you got a job" etc.

So I finally get offered a place at uni on a course that is 50% placement doing shifts and all of a sudden its:

"oh it will be hard for you, with the kids. I mean I can't have them all the time, can I?"

Every 5 minutes its "so, what will you be doing with the kids when you start uni?"

so she's obviously panicking that I might ask her to help me out.

AIBU here?? I mean surely you should be supporting your daughter who, against the odds has managed to secure a place at university to finally train up for a professional career??

I've explained to her the placements are only 6 weeks at a time and I won't need babysitters for the sociable hours shifts as the kids are 13 and 11 and will be ok on their own for a few hours. This gets met with "hmmm" as if to say "yeah yeah, she'll be asking every 5 minutes".

She barely has the kids for me now so it's not as if I have a habit of leaning on her for it! In two weeks I have a certificate presentation to go to, she was even funny about having the kids for that and it's only 3 hours!!

Bare in mind, I havn't even ASKED her to have them whilst I'm at uni but I did kind of hope she would now and again. Now I'm starting to panick that I'll have no support network whilst at uni.

AIBU??

Given how the public sector and state provision is going erc I will be instilling in mine that families help each.other out. So yes that will include childcare from me when they need it for work.

I do childcare for dd and ds, so I'm def not against it. I didn't instill anything into them, we just love each other and want to help, ds partner does my shopping and cleaning and dd is taking afternoon off to take me to hospital app on wed. They also help each other out dd having ds children to stay over weekend so they can go out. I only said I thought OP was BU for expectations of her mum because her mum doesn't do anything else with her life!!! We also choose to work around our kids and go without somethings as family is most important to us. Good luck with instilling and I bet you have times when you don't want dgs!!!xx

I've just finished my training. We had to do a minimum of 14 night shifts over the 3 years and most placements were really good at allowing us to work shifts that fitted in with our commitments. I hope you enjoy your training and that your mum helps out a bit.