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To not want his parents near me when I'm in labour???

73 replies

MalkieFraser · 26/06/2011 22:57

My 3 year old is tucked up in bed snoozing, the home birth kit is in the living room, I've been having mild contractions every 15 ish mins all night. If dd wakes, I normally settle her within seconds (cuddle, kiss, night night) If dh tries to settle her she goes ape. I don't anticipate full blown labour tonight, but dh wants to phone his parents, who are 30 miles away, and have them on 'standby' to come and whisk dd out of her bed and 'take her away' if things ramp up. I have a neighbour available during the day tomorrow, so I'm pretty relaxed about that, the dd handover would take place out of my way so as not to disturb me, and when the new babe is in arms dh would collect dd as I want her to be the first to meet the new arrival. I do not want his over bearing parents bustling in with her while I'm lying with my baps out enjoying my post labour comedown. He thinks I'm being silly.

OP posts:
ChaoticAngelinLimbo · 26/06/2011 23:32

MalkieFraser Sun 26-Jun-11 23:09:57

To clarify - his parents aren't our childcare. I have another neighbour who could see to dd at short notice IF she woke up.

This wasn't in the OP but seeing as she is in labour I think she can be excused adding it in a later post Wink

ChaoticAngelinLimbo · 26/06/2011 23:32

Damn, forgot the "" Blush

worraliberty · 26/06/2011 23:32

Ahh fair enough...thanks Grin

worraliberty · 26/06/2011 23:33

Then I revoke my thanks Grin

ChaoticAngelinLimbo · 26/06/2011 23:36

Grin @Worra

OP once again YANBU

If I say it enough times do you think we can convince your DH Wink

AuntiePickleBottom · 26/06/2011 23:36

Yanbu, no way would I want anyone seeing me while in labour.
I had dh and my mum while I gave birth the reason dh was the father and my mum as she knew medical history better than my dh, I was convinced I would end up in a c-section like my 2 sisters did.

Giving birth should be as stress free as possible so having in laws there could lead to blood pressure going up

TheShowgirl · 26/06/2011 23:48

Good God you're calm woman! Blimey!

Damn good luck to you. Do as YOU want, YOU are the one due to give birth, YOU know what you need to stay calm and to keep things happy in your household.

Stand your ground NOW, while you can and don't let anyone tell you what they think you should do. You're damn NOT being unreasonable.

Just promise that you'll come back and tell us all about your new baby and give us all the chance to coo.

Good luck and welcome to the world little one when you arrive,

LolaRennt · 26/06/2011 23:54

That would fuck me right off. A stressfree labour is the safest labour and thats a bloody fact. PIL can piss off just because you dont want them "poking their head round the corner to see their grand child" while you have your fanny stitched up hardly makes you an evil bitch.

Good luck tonight anyway!

HuckingFell · 26/06/2011 23:59

I delivered dd2 at home 20mins after dd1 crashed out for the night. It was all very calm and wonderful.

Leave your dd sleeping, tell your dh to chill!

royaljelly · 27/06/2011 00:55

You could tell him but once the moment of labour is here you really won't care. I ended up with every student doctor around me and god knows who else... magic words.... get her out now, or I will kick your ass later... ( has been toned down). I was naked at the end but pretty sure some of them have seen it all before anyway.

royaljelly · 27/06/2011 00:57

I do remember them asking permission because the only midwife at the time of labour was male. He could have been a donkey and I wouldn't have cared at that point.

PinkSchmoo · 27/06/2011 03:45

I cannot believe you are being called precious for wanting the people around you who you chose during your labour.

YANBU and you are most assuredly not bloody precious.

Not much on here surprises me but I'm pretty stunned by that one.

Hope the wee one turns up soon

ZacharyQuack · 27/06/2011 05:10

Hope it's all going well, OP. Remember the priority order of new baby introductions :

  1. DH
  2. Big Sister
  3. MN
  4. ILs

If big sister is still asleep, then reverse positions of 2) and 3)! Grin

JamieAgain · 27/06/2011 05:40

Good luck with the birth!

(I think you might need to work on getting someone else to be able to settle your DD though or you'll be knackered for the nest few months/years .....)

Original poster
MalkieFraser · 27/06/2011 13:53

Just to let y'all know, dd2 arrived at 2.30am, dd1 didn't wake:)

OP posts:
iMemoo · 27/06/2011 13:56

Congratulations xx

Flisspaps · 27/06/2011 13:59

Woohoo! Congratulations Grin

Honeydragon · 27/06/2011 13:59

aaaw Well done Smile, congratulations. Glad it appears to have gone smoothly.

PorkChopSter · 27/06/2011 14:04

Congratulations!

Where are your inlaws now Grin

izzywhizzyletsgetbusy · 27/06/2011 14:10

'Way to go!!! How lovely for you all.

Hope pils are on back burner and scheduled for a quick pit stop this coming weekend, and that your third dc makes a similiarly considerate entrance Grin

izzywhizzyletsgetbusy · 27/06/2011 14:10

Or 'similarly' even!!

Mumwithadragontattoo · 27/06/2011 14:11

Congratulations! Glad all went well.

tazmin · 27/06/2011 14:13

sounds like its all about you OP, i would imagine you even used a turkey baster so that you could be in complete control of that as well

god forbid the child's father should dare to voice an opinion! poor sod

superjobeespecs · 27/06/2011 14:15

ah well done congratulations :)

dontquotem3 · 27/06/2011 14:16

I don't think you are BU OP.
I had a homebirth with my last, a lovely little boy, and I would have been livid if my MIL was anywhere near me at the time. That's just me though.
Juvenile I know but big Grin at baps

Good luck OP!

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