Please help me see whether I am BU and should listen to my mother or if she is BU and I can carry on ignoring her!!!
My mother and father are both from very large families (9 siblings each), for whatever reason, they have very limited contact with any of their siblings, I have probably met each one 4/5 times in my entire life.
However, my mother has started researching her family tree using the internet and has discovered cousins (her mother's sister's children) living in New Zealand and Canada, and has contacted them via the internet and has invited them to stay with her for a week.
My mother's aunt was 16 years older than her mother, and she has never met the aunt who has now passed away, and didn't even know she had children.
I have said she is mad as she has invited strangers she's found over the
internet to come and stay with her for the week. She said they are not strangers they are family. I said I think you are mad, but there you go.
Now where I get dragged in, is that my daughter was adopted by us as a young baby, and is now approaching 18. My daughter has no interest in tracing her extended biological family - her parents are deceased. But my mother is saying that she must look on these internet sites and find any cousins etc as they are family.
No they are not they are strangers!
My dd doesn't want to look for them but my mother keeps on banging on about it.
So are these people family or strangers?