AIBU to think you MN'etters should all wake up and come

[TheLadyEvenstar]

and talk to me?

Christ on a bike woman is this some epic form of narcism ?

See that in itself is just so cold isn't it? It's not his home, It is MINE in my name

It may be your property but it is his home...you had a child together and you've been raising two kids together there...why is it not his home?

How are you not jumping to another man? Do you not have another man on the go then that you're seeing while still living with your DP before he's made to move out?

Words, I am just putting it all down on the screen and all grouped together it to me looks bloody awful

Worra, he has got to move out because of the way he bahves towards me thats the reason first and foremost.

It is not a home we have lived in together well for 3/4m I only moved here in December he moved in afterwards. Prior to that we had not lived together for a couple of years.

Tles I think just the title of your Op Should make you stop and think tbh I don't think Mn is going to help you.

Well let's hope this 3rd man works out for everyone's sake because generally people do introduce their 'new love' to their children rather quickly...despite being adamant they wont.

It can be very confusing especially when their so upset at the loss of Dad from the home.

The title was because I was up at a stupid time and bored tbh. Everything else just followed.

Tles it's. Just more excuses...

Worra, I am telling you 100000000000% there is no way I will be introducing anyone into DC's life. I am not letting anyone into my home in a hurry.

Words no just the reason for the title I was bored and wanted to chat and everythng came out.

TLES I think you've had a hard time on this thread :(

I know when I split with XH we didn't finish when we split. A book I read described divorce as being the death certificate not the death, the death happens long before the split or you'd still be together. I met my future boyfriend before we split and whilst we hadn't slept together we were probably a bit more than friends. I didn't leave XH for the other guy in fact we'd fallen out at that point, I left because it was over. I didn't feel bad about getting into a new relationship so soon after splitting because to me it wasn't as soon as it was to everyone else. I think knowing things were over I needed to know I wasn't over. I'd lost a lot of confidence and after spending a quarter of my life with him I didn't know if I knew how to be me or if anyone would ever want me.

My current partner - yes, my third! - was married until this year despite our relationship lasting longer than theirs. Difference is though that we weren't planning a wedding to be before the divorce - I mean, I knew how things were going - and I knew he's too laid back and she was being difficult, in the end a friend of ours who is a legal secretary and I did everything for him! Just told him when he had to see her boss for the official bits.

I'm not sure where I'm going but wanted you to know I don't think you're a terrible person, it's not easy to be at the end of a relationship and you have to do what you have to do to get through it. Don't let MN get you down :)

yes, confuddled - exactly.
My ex and I were nothing more than people living in the same house for over a year before I left.
DH was my catalyst, but only because I had no money or income and no way of moving out on my own.
In fact, for the first month after I'd moved in with DH, we had separate rooms, and dated properly, as if we were house mates who went out with each other.
(and we didn't have sex until around the same time I moved into his room)

The thing that annoys me most, though, is that it was Ex that finished our relationship, but he blamed me for leaving him!
So, all that time that we were in separate rooms in the same house, and he effectively didn't even talk to me for months, that was him believing we were still a couple!
About a week before he found out about DH, he even tried to argue with me about the fact that he'd "not gotten laid in over a year!" - that year was the year that he said we were over and that I'd put the nail in the coffin of our relationship (by opening my shop)

Thanks Confuddled and Nickel.

It's a horrible limbo too. Not knowing if you're actually single or not, whether you can be on the look out and when you do meet someone if it's cheating to see them.

Confuddled so very true.
Still I guess it all comes through right soon enough.