Do women really want 50-50 childcare?

[Truckrelented]

I'll be open from the outset I am a man, who used to post regularish but I've been off here for a while.

I am a father that has shared residency of our children, but with the threads I've read recently and conversations in real life I don't see a lot of interest in this.

Now I would have thought this was the way to equality as it enables both parents to carry on working and be independent and to have equal involvement in their children's lives.

But it seems that would be preferred is the father to see the children every-other-weekend, pay his maintenance (in whatever way it was agreed) and pretty much be a McDad.

Is that really what people want?

I imagine there are a complex set of reasons (and he does see two of them for 1.5 - 2 hours a week). Had he been okay I would have stayed married to him.

i think that like anything re kids you have to try and see what works for you as a family. if it works for you guys then it is the right arrangement for the family regardless of what everyone else is doing/ not doing. Good Luck!

regarding Truck's comment about work pressures, not being seen as flexible or a team player etc welcome to my world! I'm female, in senior management and have to leave meetings early all the time as they run late and I have to pick up kids by a certain time. I know I have the label of 'has kids' but I really don't care. I just need to work very hard to make sure that my work is of v high standard so that nobody can pipe up anything about the quality of my work and dare to infer that it is because of my family commitments. I would have to slap them and would then lose my job....

number1 - when the courts rule it, you can't suck it and see...

The other problem is that no one seems to be failed for totally ignoring contact orders so they are toothless. If it were miss 3 visits or be over 30 minutes late as an absent father and you lose the next 3 or the other way round too - deny contact or be late with it as a resident parent mother and the chidlren go to the husband to lvie for a month and then you might get some teeth in court orders.