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to think this is rude

33 replies

knittynoodle · 21/06/2011 10:54

Friend has become a bit of a bridezilla. Getting married next year on week long a holiday - shes sent invitations out and is complaining that no one has RSVP-ed. Ive tried explaining that people might have to have a while to think about it, given that its a week away, perhaps they have to check their dates etc.

Also, she only sent them in May. Its only June now. And she didnt include an RSVP card or return envelope, just a general invite card. So perhaps people are still going out and buying an RSVP card etc and all that takes time.

Anyway I DID RSVP. And she has said not one word. No thanks, nothing. Given the stink shes made about this, perhaps thanking the people that have replied would be a good thing. I asked her partner if they received my card (in passing while we were talking about something else) and he said 'er, maybe, i dont know, I opened some. Cant remember from who. I'll remind wifey to look for yours'

Ive spoken to her twice since and nothing. You can probably tell Im a stickler for manners Blush AIBU to be pissed off about this? Id just like an acknowledgement after listening to the bitching!

OP posts:
5Foot5 · 21/06/2011 13:16

Well while I think OP IBU for wanting an acknowledgment of her RSVP I am ansolutley staggered that anyone would expect people to put themselves to so much trouble and expense to attend a wedding.

lancelottle and Hammy02 got in before me.

Quite apart from the cost it would be the thought of using up one week of precious leave at a time I hadn't chosen to go somewhere I hadn't chosen to go that would put me off. Also many people might not be able to clear time off work so long in advance.

Connortraceptive said she didn't think she was being a bridezilla particularly. What!!? Massive sense of entitlement to expect people to fall in with these plans.

controlpantsandgladrags · 21/06/2011 13:48

you want a thank you card in return for your rsvp? Will you then send a thank you card for your thank you card? YABU and a bit odd tbh.

DELHI · 21/06/2011 13:49

agree with 5foot5 - the world clearly revolves around this bride-to-be Smile

WhoAteMySnickers · 21/06/2011 13:54

YABU to want a thank you for your RSVP.

Your friend IBU for wanting people to RSVP for something that is so expensive, needs a bit of planning by guests who do intend on going, and is a year away, within a month of sending out an invite.

sausagesandmarmelade · 21/06/2011 13:59

Definitely a bit bridezillerish for sending the invites out a year in advance...RIDICULOUS!

As for people having to go out and buy reply cards....
Why should that be?
When we sent out our wedding invites we invited people to reply in whichever way was convenient to them. We provided email addresses, mobile numbers, landlines as well as our postal address.

Perhaps as her wedding demands a week away she should have sent 'save the dates'.....with invitations to follow nearer the time.

sausagesandmarmelade · 21/06/2011 14:01

We're going to a wedding this year...and the bride2be got the groom2be to chase RSVPs 2 weeks ahead of the deadline...

Now that's rude!!

buzzsore · 21/06/2011 14:37

Well, I dunno, if you're having a wedding you want your guests to come away abroad for a whole week to attend, then you'd be daft not to give them a year's advance warning to pay for it Grin.

Unless either you're a millionaire willing to take them all away with you and pay, or all your friends and family are loaded and don't need to tell work in advance about their holidays.

LolaRennt · 21/06/2011 14:43

I'd thank people if they were taking a weeks holiday on my wedding. Christ yeah.

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