...to be pissed off about something I don't actually understand?

[RourkesWife]

Have namechanged as DH knows my usual name (thanks DD) but some of you will know who I am (Regular but not Royalty!)

DH's latest 'money making scheme' started this weekend. I don't understand it (properly) and don't believe that it is going to make him (us) any money. He has spent over £100 on it and I reckon he may as well have thrown fivers in the fire. I am (but not showing it). He spent more money on it last night, and I'm sure he's probably spending more as I type.

As I understand it: There has been a new internet/email 'tag' thingy issued (see, I told you I didnt understand). Like .com or .org or .co.uk

Most large companies buy up domain names as soon as they are released so for eg Barclays own Barclays.com / Barclays.org / Barclays.co.uk and all the permutations (barclaysbank / barclaybank / barclays-bank etc etc)

DH realised that some companies had not bought up the domain names with this new tag, and spent hours this weekend searching and then buying these names.

He seems to think that these companies (and some are HUGE) will pay him to buy these domain names off him.

I don't. I think they will ignore this insignificant little man and he will have wasted time and money on this venture.

I dont really understand it all (I can use a computer, but dont understand code/website building etc) but I cannot believe that this will do what he thinks.

I am really pissed off. We are not hurting for money, but are supposed to be 'being careful'. He doesnt work (much) so I feel like he's wasted family money (that I earn) on a pile of shite.

So, am I wrong? Is this crappy idea really a good idea? AIBU?

Oh God, I don't know. He's not always a dick and I do love him - he just drives me insane at times.

Laziness maybe - I'm kinda too tired or just can't be bothered to go through all the upset. I find I feel indifferent to him in many ways. We don't argue, but mainly because I let things go that maybe I shouldn't. It just seems like too much hassle to pick him up on everything.

We've had a very bad time previously and it was AWFUL. Absolutely soul destroying. It took a long time to get over it, and now that I have I dont want to re-visit.

I know I'm being a doormat, but I strongly believe that as long as DD is happy then it doesnt matter about me. SHE is the important one.

I have a good life. I enjoy my job, have good friends and a wonderful daughter. DH can be kind, generous and loving. He has a knack of changing the past (gaslighting maybe?) but in general is a good man. He cannot take criticism, cannot be wrong so I keep my head down and it makes for a happier home.

I do have my own money, we dont have a joint daily account, but our savings are joint. He will run out of cash before the end of the week and I'll give him more. I'll say that he shouldnt have spent so much on domains, and he'll say the reason he's running short is that he bought X and Y for the house (toilet rolls or food or something). He'll also point out that I took DD shopping for clothes and bought myself a dress as proof that we've both spent money.

I'm fine. Pissed off about the Domain stuff, but fine.

Not sure how DD can be happy growing up with a mum who is not respected or has to tip toe around a potentially volatile father.

But, you know him far better than us and should use your own judgement.

Good luck.

let us not forget the case of Mike Rowe (mikerowesoft.com) vs microsoft...

microsoft issued him with a cease and desist order for using a doman that SOUNDED like their name

now, Mike Rowe came out on top (kind of) in this... but the fact is, they were able to do this simply because it sounded like their name.
I think OP's husband has no chance of making any money out of this at all

Is that real, thisisyesterday? I remember McDonald's trying to copyright the name Mcdonald, despite it being a popular surname.

Yeah, I knew about mikerowesoft.com

yep, google it.

he claimed (iirc) that he just fancied adding "soft" to the end cos it was funny. microsoft had a hissy fit and offered him $10 for the domain lol, he said no and demanded $10,000...... think they settled out of court eventually.

If someone else (like his geeky mate) had told him it was a bad idea he might have listened, but as it's me questioning him, there is NO WAY I could be right!

I had an ex like that! He never changed sadly. He always went to his older friend for advice and wouldn't listen to what I said. Often the friend would give the advice that I already had and he'd tell me about it as though I hadn't offered the same advice already. Infuriating. I came to the conclusion that it was because I was younger then him, he had this weird thing about respecting older people.

He sounds rather awful to be honest. Someone who always wants to get one over on other people/won't ever accept his wrong can't be nice to have around.

YANBU god loves a tryer but it must be really hard to be married to one.
Love "insignificant little man" but you still can't beat the word "twunt" when insulting your other half !!!

Oh dear OP it sounds like he has been badly advised. He is buying the wrong type of domain name.

There was a big announcement Earlier this week that the international regulator for domain names (ICANN) has approved a groundbreaking plan to increase the number of generic top-level domains from the current 22 such as .com, to customizable ones which could include brand names, different languages or scripts. For example, in the future we might be using .Microsoft or .windows.

Applications for new gTLDs will be accepted from 12 January 2012 to 12 April 2012.

Pricing and administration has yet to be fully detailed but the application fee for new gTLDs is US$185,000, and a list of criteria must be met before ICANN will allow a firm to have its own domain.

It will cost the company a further $25,000 annual fee to maintain the domain and the application form is understood to be a very thorough 360 pages.

Here is a link to an article about it. here

YOu can buy domain names for as little as £3.00 a pop. He must have bought hundreds, they are only his for two years after that time he as to re-register them

It is a ridiculous waste of money.

He will run out of cash before the end of the week and I'll give him more. I'll say that he shouldnt have spent so much on domains, and he'll say the reason he's running short is that he bought X and Y for the house (toilet rolls or food or something). He'll also point out that I took DD shopping for clothes and bought myself a dress as proof that we've both spent money.

Do you want to stick up for yourself or is this the way you plan to live your whole life? Do you have concerns that your daughter will not respect you when she grows more aware if you carry on like this?

Buying clothes for the family and spending 150 on a waste of time money making scheme are completely different things. You will have something to show for the money you spent and he will have nothing! Do you really want to keep letting things go like this?

Is there anyway you can say that you can't get the savings money out?

Why the fuck are you with him OP? :(