to wonder it's ok to offer an opinion on here but not to make a judgement?

[joric]

I'm interested what people think about the difference between the two.

I only ever hear Judgemental on Mumsnet. It's just not used in real life.

It's a lazy argument telling someone that they are being judgemental, I would much rather see the issue tackled head on without random accusations of Judging.

It's very tedious and very lazy.

I agree. Accusing someone of being judgemental on MN often seems to be a substitute for reasoned, informed discussion or debate. And I just don't understand this condemnation of everyone who judges - I don't believe for one second that there is anyone alive who can claim they have never, ever judged another person for something. And in some cases I think it is important to judge.

:) rafa - i've come off it myself - it was doing me no good!

I agree AlOusieG - I think its a lazy argument. I think a reasoned debate it healthy and interesting and to say "well that's judging" can stop that from taking place

Everybody judges to some extent, but I can't understand why some people get so worked up about petty little things like seeing a 3 year old with a dummy. I don't tend to judge other people's parenting too harshly (I'm far from perfect myself) unless they're doing something that's venturing into "call social services" territory.

Starting to think judgement should be saved for when someone's words or actions are seriously hurting someone else.. and ( like you say halcy) NOT for trivial things.. Eg. She spends husband's wages having hair and nails done, she must be a lazy, spoilt , ungrateful sponger ???

Sorry, I've pretty much just repeated what you've said halcy.. Got to go to sleep!!