To freak out at DH over this?

[MumblingRagDoll]

I might be...I'm sure you lot will let me know.

DD1 is 6 and she's going through a phase of not sleeping at bedtime...she turns her light back on after lights out and reads/messes around. I went up there about 30 mins ago and she wanted a drink...I came down and DH sai he would take her one.

Next thing I am sitting in the garden on the phone, when DD appears giggling and jumps on the trampoline saying "Daddy said I could"

He appears and says "She has excess energy and needs to ge rid of it."

I am because for me, a full time parent...bedtime is clocking off time...I turn off and tune out...I don't WANT any DC appearing during my precious adult time. I work in the evenings too....so my free time is rare. During the day I am always doing activities or playing with thE DDs.

I made her go back to bed and she went. It's a school night! She has plenty of oportunity to get excersise (and does) in the day!

He said "You're so fucking boring." to me!

Am I? Or is he a bit of a twat?

Cymar She's definately "changing" in some way...she turns 7 soon....that's a "big girl" in some ways and she's got harder to deal with.

My Mum lives miles away and I don't drive...I REALLLY wish I could right now.

quirrel we have clashed about parenting styls in the past...he's AUssie and when I was over there his mates who had kids were VERY relaxed...their kids seem to be up with the adults all evening...leaping about. They have parties and stick all the kids in a room with a DVD...all ages mixed up! So there are 3 year olds with 6 and 7 year olds...not siblings...it's like hell on earth!

MayAsWell not really..DD was VERY good until recently.

What time do you put her to bed? Maybe you put her to bed too early?

It's time for a long weekend away with the girls (some grown up ones). Until he has a smidgen of an idea of the work involved, he won't empathise with you.

DH needed this and back-to-back episodes of Super Nanny (oooh, look how nice those children are now that the parents are consistent! It's looks so simple to! Fancy that DH, isn't that just so clever yet SO FUCKING OBVIOUS!)

We had my Bro-IL up yesterday who was looking after his 2 DDs whilst Sis-IL is enjoying a long weekend away. DNiece1 asked me to do her hair so it wouldn't fall out overnight and she wouldn't have to go to school with "Daddy hair!" He looked terrified at the prospect of a ponytail!

I've never been away since we had 2 DDs and to e honest we can't afford it.

I could go off to my mates house and spend a night and a day with her though....I think I will...but I'll pobably have to clean up the mess when I get back.

Fabby...she goes to bed at 7.30 and lights out at 8.

I hope you got up and left the scene for him to supervise.

Try the super nanny route then...?

I would be fucking furious. This is the type of thing my dh would do. Our eldest son wants to get up at an extremely unreasonable time (before 6) but after a few days of early starts he becomes really tired and grumpy and tearful at about 5pm.

The house rule is nobody gets out of bed or talks or plays or anything other than lying down totally quiet until 7am. This tactic worked and they started to wake at about 6.30 - 6.45 and were so much happier by late afternoon.

My husband always goes behind my back on days that he is up v. early for work and lets No.1 son get up before 6 to watch TV. This is purely so my dh has some company at that time in the morning. It makes me so bloody angry and it really undermines me. My ds1 now says "I'll tell daddy" whenever I tell him off about something. AHHHHHHHHHHHH

That's poor parenting - take the easy route, undermine routines and you, put the kid in charge.

Put your DH on the naughty step for that one

My DH has never done anything like that I am glad to say.
DD though, she pushes and pushes at boundaries. She hasn't had a light in the ceiling for four years now. She just wants to read and read which is lovely, but makes her fucking tiresome really argumentative through tiredness. She has a bedside light that we take in and out as necessary.
She stopped having an electric alarm clock because she was reading by the dim glow of it, same for a night light. Now the nights are lighter, we have to mount stealth checks for her standing beside her bed reading by a chink in the curtain.