to not imagine a mindset that thinks it is ok to tell a total stranger they'd be best having their arm amputated ?

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Since my arm got fecked up, I've had to get used to random people wanting to know what I did, how, what is being done about it, and why it won't get better. This includes shop assistants, people in cafes, random people in the queue for the ladies...

But the other day I was repacking my bag at a security checkpoint, and they guy started telling me I'd be better off 'doing a soldier' (whilst making a sawing motion at his arm). I couldn't quite believe it tbh. I know its a useless arm, but you don't just say that to people do you ?

I know the random comments are just people empathising in a non useful way, but this was a new level

People are so tactless sometimes.

Must be something about airport security though OP, I had a "helpful" female there ask me why my 2yo ds wouldn't say hello. When I explained he had a speech delay she replied "well you better start talking to him then"

yeah, ok, thanks for that...

I'm truly shocked that anyone would say such a thing.

People are such gobshites sometimes!

I have a friend with a paralysed arm, he says the most annoying thing is when people see him taking a bit longer to do something and then just take over. He realises that they are just trying to help, but I've seen it happen and it's just so rude and patronising! At least if people ask, he can say no thankyou, but I will ask if I do need help if that's ok with you. He has a very nice way of saying it that is firm enough for people to back off (otherwise they seem to assume he's just being polite and that he does want help really) while still making it clear that he appreciates the thought. But he's had years of it, so I guess he's had plenty of opportunity to practice saying it the way it works best!

That's awful!
not the same but I have urticaria which leaves me covered head to toe in hives. Total stranger after staring at me walked up to tell me "did I know I had an ugly rash all over my face?"
I told them I did thank you, it was a nasty side effect of swine flu. Never seen anyone back away so quick mean brighthair