To think six year old children's magazines arent really a suitable birthday present?

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this is what ds had of a friend of mine today. They were nicely wrapped up I guess. Last month dd had of same friend a coat that friends daughter didn't want anymore, and of which I had already said that we didn't want it when it was offered as a hand me down.

Do I sound like an ungrateful bitch?

YANBU unless she is very skint, but even then a little imagination could have come up with something better, like one of their own second-hand books which was't damaged.

YANBU at all, what a cheapskate, passing off used magazines that are six years old and a coat that you told her that you did not want . There is no excuse for not being able to afford, the Poundshop and Poundstretchers do lovely cheap gifts that are affordable. I would be insulted.

that is weird if she has kept these magazines and is gifting them 6 years later. I have some 2 year old magazines because DS likes to keep them but I would never gift them on.

And given your sons SN it is insensitive. Is she just like this with presents or with other areas of your friendship?

I would just smile, take the gift, and give to charity shop/recycling box. Or if you want to be passive aggressive you could offer her first refusal before you do as 'they are clearly unsuitable for your DS'

I got dd a packet of Winnie the Pooh felts pens for £1 from Poundstretchers, and a Thomas the Tank Engine Troch for £1.50 Poundstretchers. The works do lovely cheap well known books for a couple of pounds.

Who keeps kid's magazines for 6 years

Im intrigued as to what your friend is like in other ways. This isn't normal behaviour.

Even if you look hard in the charity shops you can find lovely books for a small amount. I got some almost new Noddy books that dd loves for about 10p each

Sorry its really rude and cheeky imo. Better just give a card and something that her dc has made for him e.g picture

Agree with Todydancer. Now I see that the magazines are six years old YADNBU.

who even keeps a child's magazine for six years, ffs?

Bizarre.

And yanbu.

Tidydancer even!

She must have so much clutter in her house if she's hoarding six year old magazines!

(That said I do have a library of Period Living stretching back to 2005 - but there's a reason for that!)

From your first post I would have said ywbu and ungrateful but having read that they are 6 years old rather than for a 6 year old which is how I read it originally, then that is a bit tight

Used magazines from 2005 and a coat that had already been politely declined?

That's not about being skint.

I am skint. If it is anyone's birthday I budget like crazy in advance. Like others said, you could go to charity shop if things were that bad! YANBU

hang on a minute .The coat was one her DD didn't want anymore which implies that the OP and the friend's DD are same size.Yet the magazines are 6 years old with her daughters scribbles in them , which means she must have bought them when her child was a newborn.
Something odd here

fairydoll, I think the girls must be around 10 if she was doing the activities in 2005. Not necessarily bought when newborn.

The magazines are for the OP's son though.

if you read the OP's second post, then it's clear that the friend's DD and OP's ds are not the same age. Also that OP's ds has SN and wouldn't be able to do these activities.

That's really shit of your "friend" OP, she can't be that good a mate if she has no understanding of your ds's needs and abilities, also the "presents" are just odd. Who keeps such old magazines and hands them over second hand, esp as a present??

Why talk about "suitable" presents? Surely there are no norms in the abscence of expectation...(hmmm, if only! being awkward). But really, why get all affronted about it?

Gosh, I remember when I sellotaped five or six favourite Enid Blyton books together, having painstakingly written "from QQ to X, loan of four weeks", for a friend's birthday...we were five or six. My mum let me. It was sweet. Or she was being frugal and didn't want to spend much money on someone I'd only just met. Lots of reasons for stingy/unexpected presents (oh and the loss of George and Co was definitely not evidence of stinginess on my part! :o).

Ohhhh the magazines are 6 years old?! Then YANBU!

yanbu. how odd. has she always given rubbishy presents.

They have got worse over the years.