To want to smash my dinner plate over dh's head?

[pink4ever]

I made dh and dcs a nice dinner(butter chicken-dh loves curry) with all the accompaniments(paratha,gobi pakora etc). Dh ate his in silence then dumped his plate next to sink.
I ask my 2 year old to bring his plate in if he has finished but then hear dh telling him not to as is spilling it. Well surely he should have got off his fat arse and brought it into kitchen then(where I am doing dishes)?
Eldest dc brings his plate in,says thank you mum and "oh you are like a waitress"!. I say pointedly to dh that he didnt bother to say thank you. He replies well no one thanks me for anything.Meaning he had been at work(am sahm) and then done the food shopping(his choice to do it).
Am I BU to want to smash a plate over his fecking head?.

DD just came in and said she had tided the lounge for me.

DH tells me he has done the dishwasher and I feel I need/have to say thanks. I don't tell him when I have done it. I always thank him when he gives me my dinner even though I have usually bought and cooked it all and he has just served up.

In that case he is an ungreatful twonk who doesnt deserve you and your lovely home cooking.

You find that chocolate bar, Find it and scoff it in front of him!

fab-yes thats what I mean I feel the need to say thank you when he is only doing things that really he should do anyway(ie like help out with dcs). My 8 year old showed more appreciation for the effort I put in than he did. Anyway have frozen the apple crumble I made for dessert and will scoff it all myself when he is at work.

A one off forgotten thank you could be forgotten. Not bothering to say it ever is hugely disrespectful, and sets a bad example to the kids (although from what you've said, they have better manners than he does)

Either way, he should be ashamed of himself!

YANBU. My DH doesn't always say thank you, but he lets me know that he appreciates it. Perhaps DH didn't realise that it was all homemade? Bloody good effort on your part!

I think you need to talk to your DH and see if there are any other issues here. You really have to fish to get men to talk to you sometimes.

thanks pink :) xxx