Basically my parents are very wealthy. They own over 10 properties at least 3 of which are worth over half a million, all mortgage free. They own land too. Most of it was inherited from my Nanna. They have good pensions of over 100,000 a year yet they live an incredibly basic lifestyle. My Mum buys reduced out of date food, they rarely go on holiday etc. They live in a huge house but only use a few rooms of it. My problem is, 4 years ago I got divorced, it was incredibly messy, awful. My ex stopped paying the mortgage and the house almost got repossessed, at that point my mum told me to get my name down on the council house waiting list. I managed through the divorce to get enough for a deposit on a small house but because of the poor credit history due to my ex behaving dreadfully I had to get a mortgage with a really high interest rate which has wasted loads of money and made things very tight for me. At one point no lender would give me a motgage and my parents told me to go to the Joseph Rowntree Foundation, a charity for desolate women. We live in an ex council house which I do love but despite the fact I work I have been dependent on my nasty ex to pay maintenence, if he doesn't pay we really struggle and at times I have been at the point of not being able to buy food. He's had this held over me the whole time. I'm just confused at my parents, it makes me so mad that they turned their back on me and their 3 grandchildren when at points we were in a state. My ex was physically and mentally abusive, they knew this but never acknowleged it. Even when I took him to court for assaulting me, they didn't want me to and gave me no support. I think they were ashamed that I was bringing shame on the family. They had the power to get me away from him. To help me move on but they didn't help. I'm getting remarried which is great. Things are tight financially, my new partner doesn't have a good income but he's a good man. We need to move to a house with an extra bedroom for his 2 girls. I have never directly asked my parents for any money before, loan or anything because they're so funny about money butin order to buy our new house we needed 30,000, a lot of money, I know. I just thought, what the hell, I'm going to ask them, in October we are able to pay the full amount back and they know this. I asked my parents if they could lend it to us for the 2 months, they agreed. But my Mum hasn't stopped going on about it. Saying we need to draw up an agreement etc about when we'll give it back etc. It's just doing my head in. I think why are you so so so mean. It's not that I want their money. It's the principal of it. It makes me feel like shit. Like, what do they think of me. I don't understand it and now I'm avoiding my Mum because I feel so confused. If any of my children were in the situation I was I would go to the ends of the earth to help and I would've been at that court with my daughter. All this has built up. I'm ok now and I'm moving on but when I look back I feel so let down. I'm so upset about it all and I can't forget or forgive. The money I've asked to borrow is a drop in the ocean for them and yet Mum is making me feel really guilty about it bringing all my past feelings up again. Am I being unreasonable?? So sorry about the ramble!!!!!