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Original poster

to think this memory of infant school is a bit dodgy

110 replies

MyDogHatesMe · 17/06/2011 11:01

I have a really strong memory from infants, when I was 5 or 6 (so about 28 years ago) of us having to do a 'Science Experiment' in class. Our teacher was a female and seemed elderly to me at the time but was probably actually in her 50s.

The experiment was to find a partner and then touch tongues with that partner. I chose my best female friend and I don't know if anyone chose a member of the opposite sex.

Looking back it seems really weird, I can't imagine why we had to do it, and everyone I tell about it looks at me like Hmm. It's not a false memory by the way - I know it definitely happened!

Did any teachers ever make you do anything like this?

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Glitterknickaz · 17/06/2011 12:24

People CAN and DO get off on breastfeeding, potty training or funny/embarrassing things our children have said/done.

Thing is why shouldn't this stuff be talked about? It can and did happen. Is it because we're supposed to feel it is shameful? I feel no shame at the actions of a responsible adult towards me.

Sweeping under the carpet only leads to a mountain of shit collecting, and one day it will all blow up....

RitaMorgan · 17/06/2011 12:27

If you suspect a troll, report it. Don't start troll hunting on threads.

EvenLessNarkyPuffin · 17/06/2011 12:32

I would normally agree with you RitaMorgan, but when people are being asked to post childhood memories of adults asking them to do inappropriate things for sexual gratification (the gratification of the adult concerned eg the teacher in the OP) I think it's fair enough to warn posters on the thread.

Glitterknickaz · 17/06/2011 12:35

But why shouldn't we relate our experiences? Is there something wrong in the OP relating their own experiences and asking for others? Perhaps the OP feels isolated in her experiences?

MissVerinder · 17/06/2011 12:37

Not usually one to over-react, but it is a bit yuck. I've reported it.

itisnearlysummer · 17/06/2011 12:42

Perhaps people can and do get off on stories about breastfeeding etc, but that is because people are strange.

Stories of inappropriate sexual behaviour are only that.

Of course people shouldn't feel shameful. I don't feel shameful. I agree, I don't feel shame at the actions of an responsible adult towards me. Although I am more than a little Angry that when I finally told my mum her response was "don't be ridiculous" and that she only believed me when my friends mum rang up to find out if I'd said anything because her daughter had just 'disclosed' to her.

However, my lack of personal shame about this, does not mean I want to share it for the purposes of a stranger with his dick in his hand. And if the OP is completely innocent in all of this, I'm sorry.

I have reported it.

And perhaps AIBU isn't the place to discuss sensitive issues such as sharing experiences of childhood sexual abuse.

BootyMum · 17/06/2011 12:45

I agree that the troll hunting on MN has gotten ridiculous and I am also Angry that a poster can be labelled as one for imo a fairly innocent post about a strange possibly inappropriate school experience.

So what if OP only registered yesterday? We all had to start somewhere.

If anyone feels uncomfortable sharing their experience then don't. Easy.
But don't call us naive for doing so. I personally couldn't care less who gets off on what I write. Good luck to them.

I had a music teacher when I was around 13 years old who used to make a joke about squeezing his breasts and milk coming out. He was very chummy with the kids and at the time I laughed but felt very uncomfortable. Now I think he was totally inappropriate and probably should have been reported.

Now what I really want to hear more about is the biting dinner lady and the UFO landing in the school grounds Shock

katkitya · 17/06/2011 13:08

I must be naive here. It was a strange classroom experiment, Im not sure it was "childhood sexual abuse" though?

Loads of weird things went on at school in the 70s and, pe in underwear is an example. It didnt destroy us though, did it? It just happened. Thats how it was.

OP did you go home and tell your mother, I wonder?

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MyDogHatesMe · 17/06/2011 13:27

Wow I've never had a reaction like this before just from asking a question.
I'm female and pregnant! I can't type the word because I'm at work, it wouldn't get through the firewall (or at the worst I'd get disciplined for it)

I'm sorry I asked I just wondered. It did happen.
God there are some suspicious people on this site. Can't someone ask a question unless they are in the mumsnet clique?? Is this Linerunner the head of the clique?

I won't be coming back to this site. You all sicken me and have upset me a great deal calling me that word I can't type

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itisnearlysummer · 17/06/2011 13:29

katkitya I think the concern is not the OP's post as such, but more the posts that might be posted in response.

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MyDogHatesMe · 17/06/2011 13:29

Oh and to the people who were supportive and suggested reasons, thank you :) Maybe it was an electric current thing.. I'm sure it was to do with taste though.

I just can't believe this response, I am REALLY upset by it. I was using this site for pregnancy support etc and just thought I would post something that was a sort of 'amusingish' anecdote. I didn't feel it inappropriate.

I won't be coming back EVER and I won't be getting the pregnancy support I was after either so I hope you're all happy and can sleep at night.

You total s

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MyDogHatesMe · 17/06/2011 13:31

I registered ages ago, I namechanged yesterday as my original nickname had my real first name in it and I felt I was identifiable which I didn't want to be.

Like I say I won't be coming back so you can all put your pitchforks down and stop worrying about it.

You really are a load of vipers, I can see why this site gets such negative press.

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MyDogHatesMe · 17/06/2011 13:36

FYI I didn't ask people to relate childhood s%$£"l experiences

I asked if anything similar had happened - it was a simple yes or no. I couldn't imagine a reason for it. I thought maybe people of similar age, or teachers, might have something.

My god, that's my last post on this subject or any other for that matter and I won't be reading your responses so don't bother having another go at me, I can't handle it and you'll just be wasting your time.

I hope you're all f'ing happy. I hope when my child is born I won't look at everybody with such suspicion the way you all do. Who exactly would be harmed by my post? Your precious children? Jesus.

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BootyMum · 17/06/2011 13:39

OP don't go!

MN is a bit mental at the moment, not sure why.

On AIBU you will get all sorts. Some will agree you are, some say you're not, some say it aggressively, some politely, etc. Sometimes absolute shitstorms kick off. All par for the course, you get used to it, may even come to enjoy it...

But I for one am sick of the troll hunting. And to accuse OP of potentially being a paedophile was completely off imo. It smacks to me of witch hunting. And I really cannot understand why so many posters have felt the need to report this thread. That also makes me cross, I think the rest of us who don't have a problem with it should be able to share our experiences without the MN monitors feeling the need to look out for the rest of us.
We are posting about our own experiences and therefore the responsibility lies with us alone.

CharleneysWishWellingtons · 17/06/2011 13:42

Well said BootyMum, i'm sick of seeing posters being pounced on on here just because someone doesnt agree with what they say.
It's sad really.

EvenLessNarkyPuffin · 17/06/2011 13:44

How can a grown adult think that what you decribe is anything other than inappropriate. Either you are remembering it wrong, and it was a taste test thing, and you and your friend decided to taste the others tongues or it's something that never should happen in a classroom. You seriously think that's an amusing anecdote?

' everyone I tell about it looks at me like Hmm'
And you still thought it was normal?

EvenLessNarkyPuffin · 17/06/2011 13:46

You post on AIBU asking people to relate teachers inappropriate behaviour towards them as children and wonder why people react?

FannyFifer · 17/06/2011 13:46

I'm pretty sure we did a touching tongue experiment, to do with electrical currents and we would get a shock of each other.

faverolles · 17/06/2011 13:52

Narkypuffin, the op didn't ask for other inappropriate behaviour from teachers, just asked if anyone else had been asked to do this - maybe trying to find out from a memory why they were asked to do this.
I have some very odd memories from primary school, probably worse than yours op, but now I wouldn't dare ask on here why they were done, because I'd be hung drawn and quartered by paedo hunters Hmm
Definitely not mumsnet at its finest.

RitaMorgan · 17/06/2011 13:53

For goodness sake - OP relates a memory which seems clear/real to her but which others are sceptical about. She asks if anyone else's teacher made them do something similar, basically wondering if this "tongue-touching" experiment was commonplace.

How on earth that translates into the OP being a paedo or asking for stories of child sex abuse is beyond me!

I think some posters are just desperate for a bit of drama.

thegruffalosma · 17/06/2011 14:04

Oh ffs. The paedo hunters on here are INSANE. Why the hell would a paedophile start a thread like this - I'm sure they could come up with much worse in their imagination or find much better thrills online.
All you have done is upset a pregnant woman - well done!

ClarasMummy · 17/06/2011 14:04

I think accusing a poster of being a pedophile is pretty disgusting to be honest.

ClarasMummy · 17/06/2011 14:06

Yep, spelt that wrong but don't want to type it again.

IDrinkFromTheirSkulls · 17/06/2011 14:06

We didn't do any sort of static electricity experiments (aside from rubbing balloons on jumpers) until high school. Science in infants school was all about trees and insects.

thegruffalosma · 17/06/2011 14:08

Must be cos you ARE one Clarasmummy Hmm.
Seriously this is the most paranoid crap I've ever read on here and I've been on here years!