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AIBU?

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To make a Nazi reference on DP's note?

22 replies

FromagePray · 16/06/2011 13:57

Sick to death of him being so fucking bossy and grumpy and whingy and controlling all the time. He makes up random rules for the house and everyone has to jump and obey them. Yesterday morning I woke to find a note pinned to the bathroom door saying "KEEP DOOR CLOSED". I mean, fucking orders pinned up around the house for us to obey???

So underneath I wrote "All non-compliants will be sent to Auschwitz". He came home from work saying I was pathetic and childish.

AIBU??? Would you put up with your OH pinning his orders to doors around the house?

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Happymm · 16/06/2011 13:59

Er, no! We tend to do that funny thing called talking...tends to work a bit better IMO :o

MrSpoc · 16/06/2011 13:59

Ha ha tell him to fuck right off. (its ok putting orders around the place but you do not have to follow them).

Its like the old - Women like the toilet seat down and men like it up. Personel Preferance and no one is right or wrong

nenevomito · 16/06/2011 14:00

Well, I wouldn't have used an Auschwitz analogy, but if he is leaving notes like that, calling you childish is a bit like the pot calling the kettle black.

Being bossy, controlling and leaving instructive notes doesn't make him sound very pleasant.

No, I wouldn't put up with DH doing that. I would probably shove it up his ass nose.

feckwit · 16/06/2011 14:00

why did the bathroom door need to be kept closed?
This is a tough one because just leaving notes doesn't seem that controlling to me, I mean, my DH leaves for work before we get up, it would make sense for him to leave us a note if he discovered something - ie "keep back door locked" becuse he knew we always left it unlocked or something!

I have been known to stick a note up if my children keep forgetting something like "take shoes off in here!".

So what's the real problem with it?

TechLovingDad · 16/06/2011 14:01

I agree with tell him to fuck off. Who does he think he is?

Surprised you let him get away with it, don't let him do it again.

messybessie · 16/06/2011 14:01

Well he is clearly being unreasonable by leaving you NOTES for you to obey.

But I think writing that underneath as out of order. For one, it's a really offensive to make light of. OK maybe he wasn't offended but enough people on here would be.

And also, you are being as pathetic and childish as he is. Just say, I'm not responding to notes. Please can we discuss things like adults.

Flisspaps · 16/06/2011 14:03

YABU to use the Auschwitz analogy.

YANBU to think he's an arse for putting the sign up. I'd have taken the sign down and stuck it up his arse

AgentZigzag · 16/06/2011 14:04

YABU to say on a public forum that you used Auschwitz to make a sarky remark to your DP, but you're not to be pissed off at the random rule making.

You don't seem to be the type of person who will bow down and obey though, so just tell him to go and fuck himself.

turdass · 16/06/2011 14:20

I think you were spot on!

MrsTwinks · 16/06/2011 14:35

i think it depends on your humour TBH. Its VERY VERY black humour but if thats you and DP then IMO I think you hit the spot in pointing out that hes being a twat. Otherwise its a bit too far.

yes im very very evil with my humor as is my DH so i'm giggling a bit imagining my dh reaction in that situation. I know I am a very very bad person (DH is ancestrally german too) Blush

Pandemoniaa · 16/06/2011 14:36

YAB entirely U to bring Auschwitz into it. But not to object to this ridiculous rule making and associated notices. Quite when was it that he was elected Chief Petty-minded Officer in your house?

nenevomito · 16/06/2011 14:52

Can I direct you and your DH to passiveaggressivenotes

TeaAndToast68 · 16/06/2011 15:16

To people who have looked into the horrors of Nazism, this would be absolutely shocking and revolting. Think of the most disgusting thing you can (perhaps involving child murder ot mutilation) and it's worse.

StewieGriffinsMom · 16/06/2011 15:21

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WhoAteMySnickers · 16/06/2011 15:35

How old are you both?

No, I wouldn't put up with ordering notes being pinned up around the house, nor would I reply via note if he did.

spookshowangel · 16/06/2011 15:44

i would have laughed an tore the note down to be honest its pathetic. i dont think you are being ur.

Pumpernickel10 · 16/06/2011 15:44

Very crass op take a visit to Auschwitz then tell me if you think it's funny to make fun of it. I have been there and it's an experience you cant quite explain.
What's wrong with a normal "fuckoff" usually works ok for me.

Andrewofgg · 16/06/2011 17:43

It's jut not a subject for joking. Ever. By anybody. Whatever the circumstances. Find another way to make your point.

kittybuttoon · 16/06/2011 19:10

You are not being unreasonable, deffo.

My response to a rude note was to pin an unflattering photo of OH to the outside of the front door with a label saying 'These premises are guarded by this man'

Made him laugh - and he never left any more notes!

Andrewofgg · 16/06/2011 20:43

When I get home on Thursday evenings and find a note on the inside door of the porch from DW saying PUT BINS OUT (which at the moment due to knee trouble she can't) is that "controlling" or is it just a reminder so that I don't come in and take off my coat and tie and shoes and get comfortable and then have to go out and do it? Is OP being over-sensitive in the first place?

TeddyMcardle · 16/06/2011 20:47

I love passive aggressive notes.

TechLovingDad · 17/06/2011 10:55

Andrewofgg, you know your DW better than us so I'm sure you'd know the tone is different to how OP described hers.

Also, you should ignore it until the morning, otherwise the cats and foxes will spread your rubbish up and down the street. Grin

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