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to demand some amusing anecdotes of competitive parenting?

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fuzzpigFriday · 16/06/2011 06:52

I was at an info evening for my DD's school, and bumped into a woman I know. She was one of my first friends when I moved here but we've drifted since as we are very different (her: rich DH, huge house, me: poor but happy with simple life)... No animosity, just gradually reduced to friendly and slightly forced small talk.

I added to said small talk by saying how excited my DD is about starting in September, and she and the woman she was standing with burst out laughing and then went on about how their DCs had been excited and ready for school for soooo much longer - they were even competing with each other about it! It was quite bizarre and would've been really funny if they hadn't been so patronising and talked over me - it rankled a bit I must admit Blush

I am nervous... we are in a wealthy part of town, and the school is very much in demand as it has an excellent reputation. It was pure luck that we moved where we did (ie catchment) and found affordable rent. We are technically in poverty but are mostly happy as we are, simple pleasures and all that - no car, growing veg, no tv, wildlife mad, blah blah blah. But my goodness we really stuck out like a sore thumb at the school.

This doesn't really bother me for myself (or DH) - we've got lots of friends from other parts of town. I'm more worried it'll affect DD's social life there as all the alpha/yummy mummies know each other and are cliquey - it's certainly been the case at her preschool although as that was part time and informal, and her best friend was there it wasn't too much of an issue.

I have to get through 5 years at this school... Help!!! Please tell me some funny competitive mummy stories and cheer me up :)

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peanutbutterkid · 16/06/2011 10:26

fuzzpig: the school may not be half as posh as you think. DS was down to attend the highest league-table state school in the county, in a very DesRes area of Norwich. The head teacher got so annoyed at me for assuming that all parents came from comfortable background, he started quoting his stats at me about single parents, free school meals, etc. Blush. Even in seemingly wealthy areas often are individual poor families.

Zimm · 16/06/2011 10:26

My stepmother who gave birth to my PERFECT half brother dropped a few classics on me:

"I never had a baby monitor for your DB - he just never cried"
"DB never made a mess when weaning...I don't understand babies that do"
"No I never fed to sleep...he just went to sleep"

The urge to tell her fuckng fuck off as I'd been trying to get DD down for an hour (only her second trip away from home) was immense. Got my own back by doing some very messy BLW at sunday lunch the next day and commenting that my DD hated purees (not true but who cares).

She will quote his A level results (which were 3 years ago) most days....it's deeply sad.

eastegg · 16/06/2011 10:37

Dozer you are spot on about the competition to be the worst and the stealth-boasting. It's worse than the really obvious stuff. My ILs do it all the time with DS and DN. It's always 'DS is so much calmer/easier than DN', which I can't help but think carries an element of 'not only do you not work as hard but your child is also less interesting'. I wouldn't mind so much but it's all based on characteristics they ascribed to the children the moment they were born, probably sooner.

fairydoll · 16/06/2011 10:39

'Oh my children don't know any dead people,' she said, really smugly. 'I intend to keep it that way.'

..but that's a JOKE!! I think she was being funny,not competitive!!

eastegg · 16/06/2011 10:42

If she was being funny, that's even worse. The poster was telling her about her father dying...

fuzzpigFriday · 16/06/2011 11:03

Fair point peanut, I shall attempt to wait and see! Obviously I haven't met all the parents so I'm just going on the ones I already 'know' from preschool.

Weird thing is in some ways we are actually a lot 'posher' than most people I know - very much into classical music, art and history etc, maybe we are just all round weirdos :o

Actually I think part of the worry might be because of my age - I'm 24 and most are a lot older. In all other groups of mummy friends this has never ever been an issue, quite the opposite in fact - I usually get on better with older mums. But the alpha mums just give me a sly Hmm face.

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