to miss her glasses..

[stubbornhubby]

so here's what happened: yesterday evening myself, DW and DS went to the pub where we sat in the garden on a kind of ledge, as all tables occupied.

• after a while DW went inside to go to the bar to buy a second round of drinks
• while she was indoors a table became free, so DS and I quickly grabbed it
• twenty minutes later when we left the pub DW realised she didn't have her glases
• panic!

She found them on the ledge where we had been sitting earlier.

• DW said I should have taken more care when we moved to the table to make sure nothing was left behind
• I said DW shouldn't have left the glasses there in first place.

Obviously we both had a point, but my quesiton for the MN jury is :

• was this primarily her fault for leaving the glasses carelessly
• or primarily my fault for not checking for her possessions as we quickly moved spots while she was inside.

stayingdavidtennant -- but i expressed my view in the OP!

"- DW said I should have taken more care when we moved to the table to make sure nothing was left behind

• I said DW shouldn't have left the glasses there in first place.

Obviously we both had a point"

Gripping stuff

I'm going to save this thread in favourites and read it every day

Regardless of who is who, the person moving tables should have checked everything had been taken with them. Whether the ledge was an appropriate place to leave them can not be deduced from the story. The glasses wearer should have noticed they were missing earlier.

But why did the glasses wearer take them off?

diddl, I only need glasses for driving, as do many people.

So why didn´t you leave them in the car?

Er... because sometimes I forget I'm wearing them?

I am responsible for my own glasses and if I had left them somewhere obscure like a ledge, then it is my fault. Seriously don't sweat the small stuff!

"Er... because sometimes I forget I'm wearing them? "

But you expect your wife to remember to move them for you?

When your wife moved, would they have been obvious to her as she did a quick glance to check that she had everything?

Stubbornhubby - yes, you did say that - my apologies for having missed it.

Glasses are the same as rings, watches and mobile phones...the owners responsibility.

Did she leave them there on purpose, Stubbornhubby?

To spite you? Or in the hope that you'd fail to find your way back home without them? Because she secretly totally disrespects you?

If she did it on purpose, that's the time to get worried IABU thread. If she didn't, try taking a deep breath and then letting it all go.

Doh. Words became mangled. Sorry.

I mean that no-one makes a mistake on purpose so it is unfair to blame her for overlooking your specs. Perhaps she wasn't wearing her own glasses at the time?

Diddl, you seem to be confusing me with the OP. Do you perhaps need glasses? :o

Oops!

What on earth was your wife doing buying drinks?

Ridiculous thing to be arguing about.

your fault, you made the move (and moved all the other stuff).

:) at switching the story around, haha!
It was the person who moved tables' fault. Regardless of gender. It's their responsibility to check everything had been moved.

I dont understand the "it's the owner's responsibility" bollocks!
If you move tables, you take EVERYTHING that was there! If you went to buy drinks, and came back to find tables had been moved, but your bag, phone and jacket were still at the old table "because theyre your possessions", would that be reasonable?! Of course not!!

I thought one of the lines in the marriage ceremony went,

"Will you love her, cherish her & accept that everything is now your fault, for as long as you both shall live?"

I love AIBU threads! I love how the focus became "But why did you have your glasses off" ?!?!

I love how so many AIBU OPs go to lengths to justify their OP, once the majority decide that they ARE BU.