I posted a big long thread about things a while ago (i named changed but i cant be bothered now) here www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/1233716-I-have-namechanged-for-a-pathetic-attention-seeking-needy-post
Its hugely long the basic run of it was I was feeling crap because of stress which mostly resulted in DH and his depression.
A background to this morning : last night my dad called me and told me i was a fat slob my sister accused me of moaning when I was upset. I am currently reducing the dose of a blood pressure medication and I am feeling pretty awful (racing heart and anxiety is huge and i feel exhausted but I have been told it should ease when i get used to being without it). we have four children the youngest two are 2 and 10 months, the 10 month old is a very bad sleeper and at the moment we both have thrush she woke up at 11 and didnt sleep until one. my two year old woke at 3 although she did go quickly back and then my 10 month old woke at 4:30 and was awake for the day, I had to bring her downstairs to stop her waking the others.
I was exhausted and by this point feeling quite ill so i waited until about 7:30 and then went up to ask dh to help get the older ones to school - he works from home btw and doesnt normally start until about 10-10:30.
He didnt wake up, I started getting her ready and then went to ask again at this point he accused me of nagging and said the words "why cant you just get on with it I am working" whilst lying in bed snoring? 
aparently his life is much harder than mine and he is exhausted at the end of his day sitting in the conservatory doing about 5 hours of work chatting on messenger and watching films so i should therefore do all of the parenting.
He has no clue about anything in the hosue because he refuses point blank to help. we have lived here a year and he doesnt know where we keep the kids clothes.
He says he isnt depressed anymore and hes fine just tired because he works so hard. I have applied for jobs to try and get more money (obviously we are very short the way he acts) he had a major go at me saying he was depressed when I takled like that he doesnt want me to work.
Today I just snapped (my kids were around) I started calling him a selfish twat and various other unsavoury things which is totally ot of character for me - i dont normally even swear for gods sake.
The morning has been a failure, no one is dressed my daughter isnt in school and i cant stop shaking (dont know if its my total rage or the effects of coming off the medication)
DH is now sitting in the consevatory watching me (the fun part is that there are giant glass doors into the living room and so he will soon start moaning at me for sitting doing nothing). He is convinced he has been majorly wronged and that i am totally unreasonable.
all i can think at the moment is how i wish he would just get out - but then i would be a single parent to 4 children, with no money, no job and no family who would be at all interested in helping oh and no friends because we moved hundreds of miles from them so that dh could be happier living near HIS family (that worked out great didnt it)
seriously was i unreasonable to snap? should i just get on with it he did have depression he says he doesnt now does that give him a pass not to do anything? I actually am starting to feel unreasonable but theres a small part in the back of my mind that says ffs woman grow a back bones you never used to be this pathetic.