To be very frustrated that DH won't do any form of exercise

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DH is exercise shy. DH has hit 40 and the weight is piling on. He is probably at least one stone overweight possibly two. He drives to work and sits at an office all day.

DH says he finds exercise boring. He keeps saying he wants to go back to cycling but either its too wet, too cold, too dark or he is too hungry/tired... Swimming too boring and too wet! He is not the body shape for running...

He won't budge, he is becoming a couch potato it is not attractive. I am worried about his weight and health plus the example he sets his children.

I don't know what to do. I can't make him go to a gym, tempted to drag him to the doctors. Last time he had gym membership he made excuses every day and it was a waste of money.

This is so tricky as you obviously can't force someone to exercise. I don't think it is outrageous to feel like this though - if I put on a whole load of weight then I don't think DH would be delighted tbh, and vice versa. He doesn't expect me to be skimnny/perfect shape, but we have had a conversation in the past where basically we agreed to 'call out' the other one (as nicely as possible) if we thought they had actually got properly overweight.

So, If I was in your shoes I would first of all want to think about the possibility that there was a medical reason behind it (which does sound unlikely tbh from what you have said.) I think I would probably have to lay it on thick about your worries for the future health of the children - how important he is as a role model etc. (There are plenty of stats around to show that children of overweight and obese parents are MUCH more likely to go on to have weight issues themselves.) If my husband spoke to me about it, I would also expect him to support me in eating healthy meals with me - diet more important than exercise in loosing weight. Difficult as I know he can sabotage things at work.

Can you get proper backpacks to stick the kids in and go walking? We have one which will take ds1 until he is 7, by which time he'll be able to walk reasonably himself.
It is hard. I am trying to fit in exercise atm and I would love dh to make the same effort but for now he just isn't very motivated.
For now the walking will do.