I have a lazy-arsed DH

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My dh does NOTHING round the house apart from very occasionally taking out the bin and sometimes emptying some of the dishwasher. No laudry, tidying, cooking, shopping or cleaning. He leaves his shoes, clothes, receipts, paperwork and dirty dishes all over the floor. I work on a Monday morning and he's off work. He doesn't even get out of bed to help dress or feed the DDs, he won't have made the bed and DD1 will have been late for school. I am so fed up. Whenever I try to mention it, he says he's just like all men. Is he? Is it unreasoanble of me to feel so let down and unsupported? I am one step away from leaving him.

go to counselling. a third party confirming e is a lazy arse might be just what you need :)

not all men are like this. but they might try to be if they could get away with it.

Can I ask though, when he might get a lie in if he gets up with dcs on his day off? Is it reasonable to ask him to get up?

Does he know he does fuck all? Does he see you doing everything? Do you say, while I'm doing X you need to do Y? I know that means you are retaining responsibility for everything, but at least you might delegate a bit?

If he's saying 'we need counselling' this is something you will both benefit from, and if you finally decide to throw in the towel you'll know you did everything you could to 'make it work' for the sake of your dcs.

You'll probably have a wait before you get to have any sessions; use the time to write down your issues with the relationship (it's unlikely that you feel valued or that your emotional needs are being fulfilled), and print off this thread as confirmation that he's very definitely not 'like all men'.