to be sick of being asked what i've eaten..

[kiki22]

I am 8 weeks pregnant and suddenly everyone has started to ask me what i've eaten today if i've had enough fruit n veg and have a taken my folic acid! i'm starting to get very sick of it! To put you in the picture i'm a size 12 and have never had any sort of problems with food i eat quite healthy with lots of fruit but still enjoy the odd treat or take away so i can not understand why suddenly everyones worried that i am eating o not eating.... My mother has started to txt me on a daily basis asking if i've eaten breakfast/lunch and what i had she has not done this since i started high school.

I know they are trying to take care of me but it's starting to make me feel like they dont trust me to take care of my body for the baby. i think the reason may be that they are all brining out the banners with excitement and can't understand why i'm not shouting it from the roof tops but with a miscarriage and bleeding during this pregnancy coupled with bad sickness and tiredness is not making me feel like stopping strangers in the street to tell them and they seem to take this as a sign i'm not happy to be pregnant.

i am rabbling i know but is all getting very annoying i a grown woman and don' think i should need to report everything i eat to my family. do you think i'm being unreasonable? i really don't

I don't recall anyone asking me what I ate when I was pregnant. The answer would have been pizza, haribos and pepsi max!

Just text back, EVERY TIME: crisps, takeaway, coke, chocolate cake. They'll soon get fed-up asking!

Tbh, I do think YABU. I can understand why it could be a bit annoying, but they are just taking an interest, they love you, and they already love your baby. This attention is not coming out of malice or a feeling that you are totally irresponsible and unable to do right by your child, it's because they care.

I'm willing to bet you'd be more upset if they didn't contact you at all.

YANBU but just wait until the baby is born because then the "advise" will be even worse - you should feed this way, this often, rock them to sleep., don't rock them to sleep etc etc - and on and on!! This is just the start - get used to smiling pleasantly and ignoring/changing the subject swiftly. and doing what you feel is right regardless.

Congrats!

i'm getting very used to smiling pleasantly already my cheeks are startin to hurt :)

Agree with Katy , you'd better get used to it I'm afraid

At that point it was crisps, chocolate, sweets, whatever I could get into my body without throwing up! Sadly you'll continue to get bothered by 'Are you eating a balanced diet?' etc until the cows come home.

Be afraid, very afraid, "they" will try and make you eat for two ..... don't do it!

YANBU

I don't recall ever asking a pregnant friend what she'd eaten. Wouldnt' cross my mind

Then! The random strangers touching your bump will start. That used to really pee me off.

I wish that someone had cared enough to ask me what I'd eaten when I was pregnant with DD3!

Who´s asking?

troisgarcons thankfully no one tried to touch my bump, other than the Dad to be and older brothers. I would probably have decked them if they had.
I honestly don't get why some people are so obsessed with pregnancy, especially other peoples'.
OP you're not being unreasonable at all.

YANBU - Today my mum had a go at me(10 weeks) for having hot dog sarnies for lunch, when you feel sick,tired and a little sorry for yourself, I dont see what wrong with having something quick and easy every now and again. Im making meatloaf soon but just feel like going to bed. :)

Come on, it's well-known that pregnant wimmin are a little bit, you know, soft in the head, and everyone else must gently take their hand and tell them what to do. It's for your own good..... ah look this is a prevalent attitude, and it carries on for a fair bit after bub's born too. Everyone has an opinion, they're all different and they all think they're right. Generally the way to handle it is to take the info in, smile sweetly and thank them then do it your way. But in this case, while their motivations are dead sweet, YABfeckingU at all, and you should say "Oy! Sweet yet overbearing relatives! No! Thanks!"

It's nice when people care, but being patronised and controlled is my absolute pet peeve.

Just repeat "I'm eating very well, thanks for your concern" and change the subject.

No one asked me, but I eat like a horse, all the time, and it got even worse when I was pregnant, I was eating at least every two hours - I don't think my colleagues can believe how much i eat! I am a fruit-fiend and like my grilled/roast meat too, but will basically eat anything. No-one said much to me about my pregnancy at all except the odd statement of the blindingly obvious (along the lines of "ooh it's getting bigger", or "aw, starting to show now"). No one tried to touch my bump either - I had a hard time trying to get my partner to touch my bump, even when it was moving about!

i got this from my mum and MIL for the first months of this PG i told them the truth to begin with (not much as i keep vomiting) quickly realised the nagging would never stop so kept telling them toast :) they now both think my craving was toast and that it has sustained me these past 5 months bloody interfering rellies drive me nutso

Are there any other ways that you would like to be "taken care of"? Help with housework, time off etc? Can you point people in those directions with a few hints instead?

YANBU. Ask your mum (nicely) to butt out.