Who or what it right or wrong....

[TheLadyEvenstar]

I have taught both DS1 and DS2 to do things for themselves.

DS1 can (not that he always does mind)
work the washing machine
work the dishwasher
make dinners
hoover
dust
make tea and coffee - albeit BADLY humph!

DS2 -
showers himself
plays alone
helps with the washing machine and dishwasher
Makes his own breakfast - pours the milk in
Pour himself a beaker of milk.

I am on a forum where there is a bit of a heated debate and I am told my way of parenting is lazy and this woman who does everything for her kids who are 13 down to 7 is the "perfect" parent.

So MN jury opinions?

This is all on FB on the Poor Kids page that has been started. There are a lot of people slagging off others.

One of the girls in the show said "I don't always have breakfast because I don't make it or we are running late" Some people were really slagging the mother off for not making her DCS eat breakfast, so I said I had taught DS1 to make his from early on around 6yrs old. Hence why I am a bad mum, and neglectful to my children.

My mum did EVERYTHING for my brother and me. Whilst it was nice at the time, it meant a lot of learning basic things. My brother, at 33, still won't do the simplest of things.

So, OP, YANBU.

I think ones job as a parent is to try to raise children who will be capable, productive, resilient adults. That means teaching them to be independent not acting as their unpaid servant for 18 (21? 30?) years and then sending them out, completely unprepared, to fend for themselves.

you are the good parent not those suffocating martyrs!