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TO BE VERY PROUD OF MY 10 YEAR OLD SON

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RunAwayWife · 11/06/2011 17:44

OK I am so proud of DS2, he is off on his school residential trip next week for a week, and the teacher gave the class a chance to choose who they wanted to room with, several people put DS2 as one of their choices but no one wanted DS2s best friend (a little boy with mild autism and ADHD, not one person other then DS2 wanted to be roomed with this little boy Sad. So DS2 told the teacher that he was sticking with his choice of his best friend and did not care if it was just the two of them in a room (that is what it will now be). The poor little boy has had a terrible time of it lately and been bullied and the school sent a letter to every child in the classes parents saying that with the exception of one boy they were not happy with the behaviour of the boys in the class to this little boy, and the headmistress told me that the "one boy" was my son who had stuck up for and by his friend despite it costing him friends and causing problems for him.

I am so proud of DS2 because at the age of 10 he has more integrity and loyalty then most adults I know. I am proud to have a son like him.

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crispyseaweed · 11/06/2011 18:28

Good boy !He is mature...

MissBetsyTrotwood · 11/06/2011 18:49

What a strong, independent little spirit. Well done to you and your family.

TheMonster · 11/06/2011 18:50

That's wonderful, Runawaywife. He sounds mature and non-judgmental.

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RunAwayWife · 11/06/2011 18:55

Blush you have made me go all pink

DS1 had a rough time at Primary school, was bullied and I think DS2 picked up on the fact that I would never tolerate either of my boys being bullies or in any way unkind. Thank God DS1 is having a better time at high school.

DS2 loves his friend and I will be making sure that they stay in touch after July and still have play dates and so on.

I know which friend I would rather my son have and it is not the rest of the boys in the class

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Quodlibet · 11/06/2011 18:56

The world needs more people like your son in it.

Sufi · 11/06/2011 19:01

what a wonderful boy. I was bullied when I was 10 & everyone turned on me apart from one girl, my best mate. I'll never, ever forget what she did. She made me feel like I mattered.

What your son has done will last a lifetime - you have every right to be proud.

Twunk · 11/06/2011 19:01

Awwwww I felt a little bit tearful reading your OP. You sound as lovely as your son.

lateSeptember1964 · 11/06/2011 19:03

How lovely. I'm sure his little friend will have happier memories of his schooldays all because of you son.

lateSeptember1964 · 11/06/2011 19:03

Should read your not you

LtEveDallas · 11/06/2011 19:05

ahem it's very dusty here, yes? What a wonderful lad.

Smile
moosemama · 11/06/2011 19:05

You are rightly proud of your ds - he sounds lovely.

My ds1 has ASD and his best (and really only friend) did the same for him on their residential earlier this year. They were on their own in a room together and it made it possible for my boy to go on the trip and have an absolutely fantastic time.

Ds's friend constantly sticks up for him against the awful bullying that he's been subjected to over the past few years and his Mum, like you, has him over to their house to play when no-one else would even consider it, taking the time and trouble to consider his dietary needs and all his quirks.

We are so grateful to both him and his parents for their constant support and friendship. Without him there, I honestly don't think my ds would still be in school.

Friends like your ds are one in a million and the result of lovely parents like you setting them on the right path.

The world needs more beautiful souls like yourselves in it. Smile

RockThePots · 11/06/2011 19:07

Wifey that is lovely. You should be very proud of him, i'll bet he grows in to a great man.

TidyDancer · 11/06/2011 19:09

Your DS sounds really lovely, OP. What a sweet boy you are raising. :)

BinEnd · 11/06/2011 19:14

You have every right to be proud Smile

anewyear · 11/06/2011 19:17

As has been mentioned before, I hope your proud of yourself and him.

My son doesnt have 'problems', such as Aspergers, Autism, Adhd or the like although ODD has been looked at, and, unless we get a diagnosis which isnt likey to happen,
he will forever been seen as a 'bad boy' .
Thank heavens for his Best friend and mum, they help keep me sane.

AgentZigzag · 11/06/2011 19:23

What a lovely lad you have there, a real credit to you Smile

SongBirdsKeepSinging · 11/06/2011 19:30

Aww what a lovely son you have, I hope my dd is as good a friend to someone one day.

As others have said you should be proud of yourself for raising such a sweet boy.

takeonboard · 11/06/2011 19:38

You must be so proud, I know I would be. Your DS probably doesn't realise how much difference he makes to his friends life at school.

PinkSchmoo · 11/06/2011 20:32

My DS is 5.5 weeks and if he is half as considerate as yours at 10 I'll think I've done a bloody marvellous job. Need to go and get hanky now (tears in eyes).

handsomeharry · 11/06/2011 20:50

I agree. Your DS sounds amazing. Am having a really difficult time with my DS, aged 9 just now so am also a little envious too sadly.

gets hanky...

seeker · 11/06/2011 20:56

Yes, you should be proud. But the school should be looking very carefully at it's strategies for dealing with the class's attitude to this child.

And if I were you, I'd be wanting to be reassured that your ds and his friend will not be isolated by the others on this trip. I would be pretty forceful on the subject.

jan123 · 11/06/2011 21:09

What a lovely boy...you are right to be proud of him....Smile

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FellatioNelson · 11/06/2011 21:53

How lovely. I'm not surprised you feel proud. You deserve to.

thederkinsdame · 11/06/2011 22:02

You should be really proud. If there were more children and parents like you and your son then school would be a better place for so many children who struggle. I'm glad the school have recognised it, too.