to worry about MN being used as a RL soap opera?

[MardyBra]

yes, it's a thread about a thread but I thought it was useful to take the side issue off line.

Sometimes on a dramatic thread (like the one where the op caught her husband with the OW) I get the distinct feeling that, after the initial support given to the Op, lots of people just pile in to "mark their place" on the thread. Some on that thread were blatantly just posting a full stop - how rude. . All followed by lots of speculation and conjecture and demands for updates. I've seen it before, like on the pregnant DSD thread.

FFS if you have nothing helpful to add (but are still concerned for the OP and want to get an update) just press "watch this thread" and stay away.

Caveat: I know this doesn't apply to the majority of MNers. The rest - please learn some manners.

I'm not in charge but the thread will continue with folks speculating the fate of the op
I doubt the op will come back I certainly wouldn't after reading some of the comments on there

I don't think it needs to be deleted. It really wasn't that tragic a thread, yes the op found her dh with another woman but tbh these things happen to people all the time, it hurts, they deal with it, they move on eventually with or without support. But this is an open forum, and ultimately if people keep posting on it then it will eventually fill up and disappear.

Suicide threads are the only ones I feel should be deleted and and people encouraged not to post on them.

And scottishmummy did post on that thread but actually, she posted on it a day after the last person had done so thus bumping it back into active convos, so tbh I think that was a bit disingenuous.

and "thinking of you hun" I always take to read as "I'm curious to read the next installment."

I agree op. On the thread you are talking about I actually saw someone just post an '.' - that was all. A clear 'marking my place' which I thought was awful.
I tend to put threads on watch but that's mostly when I suspect trollery but don't want to call troll.

Pumpernickel... bit two-faced of you as well actually. You remind me of another poster who criticses others and does the same thing herself, then stands back in wide-eyed innocence...

I agree it is rude and sometimes very inappropriate to post 'marking your place' on threads that aren't joky.

However, I've just seen vmcd's post and since she is referring to me, I had better reply. As I said on that thread, if I misunderstood, I'm sorry. I honestly don't think I did, but I tried several times to explain what I was saying, and was met with immediate rudeness and eventually, swearing at me, and now a nasty comment on another thread. I'm not sure if that's considered poor manners or not given the thread title but I will say it is pretty hurtful and I wish she'd dealt with it on the thread where she swore at me and ignored my attempts to explain why I felt her posts were out of line and came across as belittling towards the OP there.

Hate the Hun bit myself

How's that witch I was honest and I did post on that thread when it was 1st on after that I didn't want to post.
There is having genuine concern for an op and rubbing your hands for the next sad installments. I'm not the latter. I say my peace etc

YANBU, I checked back out of a want to know if the OP was ok after posting something in support. But I also noticed people doing what you have said. I have also noticed it on other threads.

I suppose and I may get flamed for this but something so personal as that I wouldn't post, that's just me I guess. MN I use for everyday advise a bit of banter etc not for an out and out war.

Certain subjects will always cause a divide

Leave the bastard!

I cant believe it now someone's done a new thread asking what's happened to morevicar off that thread
Some people

is that who the thread was about ??

but mn is ALWAYS like this, or perhaps there are just more posters now.
people are concerned but it can verge on being nosy

YANBU posters aren't obligated to post updates especially when their life's going down the shitter.

Yes it is slarty

Slarty, yes. What is your post implying?

LRD, aaaaaaaaargh! I wasn't rude to you, I didn't swear at you!! I explained what I meant, you accused me of saying things I didn't say! Again you've apologised but you agree that you don't know what for, like a 4yo! I mentioned it here to illustrate that I hate how threads turn into something that was never the point of the op! I didn't mention your name here! YOU did!
Stop already, no-one cares!

There are lots of threads where the op just has to disappear to deal with what is going on but that doesn't mean that people won't continue to wonder. I posted on the second thread and mentioned that this is the case. I remember a thread a few weeks ago that was about unfinished threads and what happened etc. It is human nature to be curious. Sometimes a thread sticks in your head.

vmcd - please stop bringing it up, then.

And yet here you all are......gossiping!!

The Internet equivalent of the garden fence. Just as bad!

Here you are joining in tiffany

Nope....not expressed an opinion