If the man had mental health problems I would say he'd need help chummy - because he would.
I hardly think the people assessing whether the abductor was fit to be prosecuted would make allowances for her just because she's a woman.
Or are you suggesting that because the majority of posters on MN are women, we would feel more compassion for her?
If anything, it may be the opposite, because we'd be more likely to put ourselves in the shoes of how the mum of the little girl would be feeling and therefore feel hostility towards the abductor.