I am keeping the basics brief (though there is a novel in there)
My DH was cut out of a childs life..his child. The woman and he had a short(week long) affair whilst she was engaged....this is years ago when they were young...she did not tell him she was having his child and moved abroad. Then 10 years later...the child was curious and he gets a phone call. By ths time he has met and married me, had 2 DC and we all get a horrid shock.
They live abroad and we live in the UK...we first got the news 3 years ago when DHs DD was 10. He has been over to visit but it is very expensive..(dnt want to say where but a long way away) With my encouragement he Skyped, telephoned and sent letters and presents to his DD....she was sweet and keen t get to know our DC....we told our DC all about their sister and gave them a photograph (ours are 3 and 6) The relationship has been awkward though...the Mother will sit there next to her DD and denounce men in front of this little girl...saying "All men are crap" and things like that..
Anyway...DH sends money monthly ..not loads...all we can give. Recently hs DD hasnt wanted to talk to him much (understandable as she is a teen) but he tries. He joined Facebook in the hope that she would befriend him but according to the Mother, she is not even friend with her nor does she kknow the kids password (she's 13 ffs!)
So DH makes friends with the Mum...one day DH saw that the MOther had filled in one of those stupid surveys "Do you think John is cute" etc...and being a total dweeb & new to FB he has no idea it's just a stupid app. and means zero...so he deleted it and asked her not to put things like that on his wall incase it upset me. (I know! Stupid...it would not have bothered me)....her response?
She blocked him and told him to get out of their lives and he was a twat for putting "a grown woman" before hs child and he was not to get in touch anymore.
Why did she say that? SHE filled the dumb thing in ...not his DD! And I never asked him to delete it...she assumed. Now DH thinks he will never know his child...the woman is a snake...who has played God and I want to deck her quite frankly. She works in a brothel as manager and she says all men are scum...she said this infront of her child and I am so sad.