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Original poster

Day out on saturday

28 replies

mummytasha11 · 09/06/2011 20:11

Hi everyone. I'm freaking out a little
I'm going out for the day shopping on Saturday and I'm freaking about leaving my ds with his dad for the whole day, I'm worried because I've just started him on 3 meals a day now and I don't know if his dad will keep to his routine :/ eeeek it's making me want to cancel my shopping trip but my partner tells me to stop worrying and that he will b fine

OP posts:
JaneFonda · 09/06/2011 20:15

What makes you think his dad is incapable of feeding him three meals a day? Cut him some slack, for goodness' sake.

AchtungBaby · 09/06/2011 20:16

If you're really worried, write out your DS's routine for his Dad, and what foods you'd like him to be given at each mealtime.

Have a lovely day Smile.

GypsyMoth · 09/06/2011 20:17

Is this for real!?

youarekidding · 09/06/2011 20:24

Hmm He managed to make half of him I'm sure he'll cope.

thisisyesterday · 09/06/2011 20:24

i mean this very kindly but... GET A GRIP!!!

you are BOTH the child's parents and if you never let him look after his son then of course he won't know what to do Hmm

how would you feel if he implied that you couldn't look after your baby properly?? hmm??

GO, enjoy your day, and let them enjoy theirs. if he doesn't stick to the routine it doesn't matter! baby will survive, and it'll be a good bonding day for them, really... try and relax

MynameisTerces · 09/06/2011 20:26

Unless you know this man how can you all judge. Maybe he struggles to feed himself three times a day.

MynameisTerces · 09/06/2011 20:26

If he is hopless pack the meals and tell him it is just to make his life easier.

thisisyesterday · 09/06/2011 20:27

myname i would assume that if he was that useless she wouldn't consider leaving a small baby with him at all Hmm

Rebecca41 · 09/06/2011 20:29

I agree - it's not fair to tell OP to stop worrying, unless you know what this man is like.

If you're really worried he'll mess things up, could you prepare the meals and even phone him at meal times?

How old is your son?

MynameisTerces · 09/06/2011 20:29

Well, she is not with him now. Maybe it was an accident, or she left because he is an arse. We don't know do we. No need to be so pissy is there.

youarekidding · 09/06/2011 20:33

Seriosly - if he can't even remember to feed himself, let alone a baby I'd be questioning why she's with him not why she's leaving her baby with him.

My ex-P is a useless twat but I hate all this 'men are useless' stuff. He was and is useless so he doesn't live in the same country with us. But thats him personally not because he's male.

OP, how do you know he deosn't worry about you remembering to feed your DS when he's out all day at work or whenever. Wink

MynameisTerces · 09/06/2011 20:34

I dont' think she is with him, she mentioned a partner.

youarekidding · 09/06/2011 20:35

Oh she isn't with him? Well that wasn't particulary clear in the OP.

Original poster
mummytasha11 · 09/06/2011 20:35

I am still with him lol, it's just be being stupid and territorial I suppose....ive just apologised and realised how ridicules I sounded! Confused

Over tired me thinks,he is 21 weeks :)

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MynameisTerces · 09/06/2011 20:36

So who is the partner ?

tethersend · 09/06/2011 20:36

All he has to do is keep him alive until you pick him up and resume his routine. Enjoy your shopping trip Smile

Original poster
mummytasha11 · 09/06/2011 20:36

Sorry just read op I didn't make it very clear at all Blush

OP posts:
MynameisTerces · 09/06/2011 20:37

sheesh, apologies to thisisyesterday you were right on the nail there.

AnonymousBird · 09/06/2011 20:38

The Dad and the Partner are one and the same.

He will be fine.

A lovely opportunity for them AND you.

Try not to worry.

vintageteacups · 09/06/2011 20:44

I still have to write a routine/meals list for my DH and my children are 9 and 6 !!!

That's not to say he ever sticks to it but it makes me feel better.

youarekidding · 09/06/2011 20:46

Ah thats good I read it right.

Well glad you've apologised. Smile You are being territorial, perfectly normal and as a MN once said to me something along the lines of - 'your DP will look after his DS how he wants, it may be different to you - but who said your right'?

Enjoy shopping and don't forget to stop for coffee and cake in peace Grin

Original poster
mummytasha11 · 09/06/2011 20:58

Thanks everyone :)

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shubiedoo · 10/06/2011 16:39

Different point entirely, but he is still very little to be having 3 meals a day... Even if he didn't eat the food it's not going to hurt him that much, he might have an extra bottle instead or whatever!

verytellytubby · 10/06/2011 16:42

Relax and enjoy your day!

Write out your routine. I've been known to do it for my 9 and 6 year olds Wink

BabyDubsEverywhere · 10/06/2011 16:44

3 meals a day at 21 weeks Confused