to not want to go out

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DS1 is 6 and DS2 is nearly 6 months. I have been invited out to a meal tonight with friends from work and a birthday party on Saturday. I dont want to go to either, I like being at home with my boys. People keep saying I should go out, but why? DH is going to the party alone on Saturday night, he doesnt mind, he understands why I dont want to go. I am intending to go back to my evening dance classes in September when I return to work part-time, I just can't stand to be parted from DS2 as he is still so little. I do lots in the daytime and am always out and about but with my DCs. Before DS2 was born, I went out occasionally in the evening and no doubt I will again when DS2 is a bit older, but just not now.

Of course YANBU, don't feel pressured by other people to do stuff you're not into.

You'll know when you're ready, no point in stressing yourself out about it.

Do what you want. YANBU. I didn't want to go out when mine were that little.

I remember this feeling. Don't go, and DON'T beat yourself up. Plenty of time for meals out later.

YANBU. It took me till I was 45 to realise that I could say "No" if I wanted, instead of trying to keep other people happy all the time.

Now I please myself and stay in! I hate parties, I can't make small talk with people I'm not interested in and I feel uncomfortable in these situations. Why should I feel that way just to please others?

YANBU, I'm just the same and far happier to stay in.

YANBU, I was quite hermit-like for months after twins were born (also had 2yo). I was mad busy during the day and in the evenings I just liked quiet, a book or dvd, or a potter in the garden.

In the past year I've become a lot more sociable, back at college part-time, going to exhibitions, pub with friends etc. That's what I like to do now, but I really enjoyed my anti-social quiet couple of years too. Do what pleases you now, you are allowed!

I'm happier staying in and went 3 months without venturing out. I'm a lot better now but hate going out of an evening.

Dont go to the meal but i would go to the birthday party. What if all the friends 'don't feel like' ?