this was meant to be the best news in the world, why am i so sad?

[JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns]

ok, i know i am being unreasonable but i need to vent and maybe have someone tell me ill be fine.

for those few who know me on here ive had a pretty chaotic and devastating 18mnths, death of two close relatives, two mcs, job problems for me, redundancy for dp, no less than 3 car accidents/break downs resulting in write offs. and the major one was moving 100miles from 'home' for the house to be sold out from under us 10mnths later, oh and a nervous breakdown...

Anyway we have been in a bnb since feb, yesterday we got the call, we have a house.
Only problem is theyre sticking us out in another town 30mins from 'home' and 40mins from ds school, Only to move us back into home town in january. I know i should be thrilled we finally have a home but im just feel so very sad, we found routine and settled ds in a lovely school, both of us have jobs and juggle things well having close family support, the council were VERY aware of this and had told us the house they had lined up originally would be passed to someone else as it was 40mins away, and we may have to wait a bit longer than usual to stay in our home town, fine we said, we have alot of debts and need to stay in our jobs which we cannot do living away from family. Now this move means i have no choice but to leave my job, possibly move ds and face being very lonely and isolated again, only dp drives and no close family or friends drive, buses are 2hourly and no trains, i just feel like weve been through so much and we finally get some good news and the reality is not so.

go on, flame me, i should be bloody grateful shouldnt i

Have just read your other thread, just take the house and get yourselves away from the b and b. Your bloody marriage could be at risk!!

I think it's totally normal to feel like that - people feel just the same nerves and regret when they move to a house they're buying, in a place they've chosen. I think that in a few weeks, you'll be feeling much more settled, and you'll get through the move back in January after that.

this does shed a slightly different light on the matter doesn't it?

Could a large part of your reluctance to move be down to the lad in question do you think? If so, maybe it's the best thing for everybody involved in the long run.

But if you work, how much time would you spend with your mum, really?

YANBU to feel sad, you feel supported and stable where you are.

However, you have no choice, going to this place is just part of the process until you get to be where you want to. You just have to grit your teeth on this and make the most of it.

One thing, it sounds a bit odd that they will move you in January again? Pls check that this is correct as I don't understand how they are giving you a house and then would move you again? Have you had this verified by someone other that the PITA at the office?

Jj just seen your other thread. I would still chat to someone at citizens advice about this. It can't do any harm to get their point of view and as helen says, you need to check that this isn't a permanent house and maybe they can get you something in writing. I don't think you can trust the woman at the council to play fair with you.

But, having seen the other thread, I think that unless this new house is in a total shit hole and would be bad for your kids, then I do think you need a bit of distance from this lad, for the sake of your relationship with your DP.

If you have to take it, take it. And put yourselves down for a swap immediately, you never know.

Do I understand this right - the move out of the town where you want to live is only for 6 months? And then you will move back to the area you want to be in?

Thanks for the sound advice, there are ways around it but it is obvious its best for us all in the long run, it is only 6mnths as its a private let the council are placing us in apparently.

Believe it or not my main concern is my job and my sons education, not my friends.