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School trip. Need quick advice. More of a WWYD

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ToDoodles · 09/06/2011 07:57

Ds1 has just started new pre-school. Today will be his second afternoon. He's only just 4.

They are running a school trip to a farm attraction which is 40 ish miles away tomorrow and i'm not sure if to let him go.

He's only just started and wont know all the teachers, children etc, or who to go to.
He'll also have to take a morning off from his normal pre-school.
What if something happens!?

I have to sign the forms to be in this morning. He really does want to go.

Yes he is my PFB and I know i need to let him go eventually but... WWYD?

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DegreesCelcius · 09/06/2011 08:01

Any chance of you being able to go as well.
You could ask. They might appreciate the extra help.

HushedTones · 09/06/2011 08:01

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yoshiLunk · 09/06/2011 08:06

I felt the same for my PFB's first trip. I couldn't go on the trip but I spoke with one of the other Mums who DS knew quite well and I was reassured to know she would be looking out for him.

yoshiLunk · 09/06/2011 08:07

at eaten by a sheep

DialMforMummy · 09/06/2011 08:12

Don't worry! Let him go.
On school trips these days not much is left to chance. Staff have to do the hell of a lot of risk assessments and IME ( am a teacher) children are very well supervised.
It's a milestone for both of you. Think that it would be a shame to stop him doing something he wants to do because you are worried.

exoticfruits · 09/06/2011 08:12

If he wants to go I would let him-don't hold a confident DC back with your fears. (if he was unsure I would have a different reply)

acatcalledbob · 09/06/2011 08:15

Let him go - my DD2 is 2 and has done 2 nursery trips (butterfly farm and fire station) in the last year. She also traveled with nursery to a theatre several times for dress rehearsals for their Xmas show. She loved it and it was all done with relevant risk assessment etc.

It's probably the best way for your DS to settle in and make friends - all the more reason for him to go imo.

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ToDoodles · 09/06/2011 08:17

I will have dd2 with me who's just hit terrible twos and we would be more of a hindrance than a help
Although i'm thinking of driving down and just hanging around so i can keep an eye on him or is that a bit [hmmm] ?

I don't know any of the other mums yet.

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Bucharest · 09/06/2011 08:17

If he wants to go, then yes.

(don't let him see either that Mum will be chewing her knuckles and checking the local news all afternoon!) We'll hold your hand while he's gone. It'll be a lovely informal way for him to mix with the other children as well.

Bucharest · 09/06/2011 08:19

Don't go lurking in the undergrowth!

(you could ask if they need a helper? I did that last year with dd's school trip?) But don't slink around camouflaged as a bush or anything.

valiumredhead · 09/06/2011 08:25

If he wants to go then let him - but as he has only just started there I would go and help out Driving down is a good idea and meeting them there then you can scoot off if dd2 is being too disruptive.

allthefires · 09/06/2011 08:31

Let him go and don't stalk him! He will be fine- you however Wong be so have some distractions in place!

chelstonmum · 09/06/2011 08:47

My DC's started a new school in late September. DS (8)'s class had a residential coming up 2weeks later....we politely declined and had a few days doing our own project. Would have gladly let him go if DH or I could have gone along too.

Drive along, let other DC have a nice day out and you can leave if he seems to be fine and Dc2 is getting grumpy.

Good luck!

OldMacEIEIO · 09/06/2011 08:50

let him go. its a small risk

treas · 09/06/2011 09:11

If he's keen let him go - he'll have a brilliant time and think he is so grown up to have spent the day with the other bigger pre-school kids.

I personally would not follow him down as he could see this as a sign as something wrong, which might effect him settling in to pre-school. Secondly, it might just embarrass him and make him a figure of fun with the other kids.

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ToDoodles · 09/06/2011 09:31

Thank you all :)

I put in the form saying he could go. He's so excited it seemed mean not to let him. Its a very organised trip with lots of adults.... I'm trying to convince myself.

Really gonna try not to stalk him. :(

Expect lots of frantic posting tomorrow

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HushedTones · 09/06/2011 10:38

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lesley33 · 09/06/2011 10:47

Its great that he is so excited. Just to say I don't think it is a good idea to go along to the farm as this may unsettle him. Sometimes children can be having a great time, but if they spot their mum where they weren't expecting to see her, it can IME make some children unsettled and not as happy as they were.

Say to the staff that it is his first time on a trip without you and you are very nervous about it. But I am sure it will be fine.

JenaiMarrHePlaysGuitar · 09/06/2011 11:01

DS still talks sometimes about his first ever nursery trip - aged 4. Six years later! Happy memories, it seems :)

yoshiLunk · 09/06/2011 14:02

I practically cried with relief the first time my DS came home safely on the coach from a school trip

me too

I actually went out for the day to a shopping centre when DS went on his first trip to keep my mind off it. On the way I passed the sign for the place he was visiting - I was so tempted to pull in off the motorway

Let us know how he gets on, and if you need to do some frantic posting it's alright with me

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