I know I shouldn't care, it's not important anymore and there's nothing I can do about it anyway but this has still really got to me.
DS is nearly one now. DP absolutely dotes on him and is a wonderful, responsible dad. He's 30, was nearly 29 when I conceived DS. My pregnancy was planned and was wanted by both of us although it happened sooner than either of us expected. We had only been together a year beforehand but decided to go for it as we were committed to each other and I was 33 and starting to get a bit stressy about the biological clock thing.
He has a very wide circle of friends but is particularly close to this very clicquey (sp?) little group who, I felt, always resented me appearing on the scene. Apparently his previous long term girlfriend didn't get on with them at all, so he never hung out with them and her at the same time. Although I didn't feel very welcoming vibes from them, I forced myself to make a real effort as A: it's polite, B: they were some of his closest friends so they werent going anywhere and it was in my interests to get along with them, and C: I didn't want them to be able to say I was a horrible cow who had a problem with his mates.
So anyway, I gritted my teeth and did my best to get along with them. I accepted that they were slightly territorial where he was concerned and I wasn't expecting to develop genuine friendships with them until I'd been with DP for a good few years, if ever. When I got pregnant, I was dreading him telling them because I had a feeling they'd strongly disapprove. Actually, this went for quite a few of his friends, not just this mini clique. As it happens, nothing negative was said to him directly but there was a distinct lack of enthusiasm from a number of people.
None of this should really matter now that DS is here, and the three of us are a very happy little family. But we're both aware that not all of DP's friends are pleased for him. One girl in particular, part of the mini clique and somebody that DP considered to be like a younger sister, has barely contacted him since DS was born. This has shocked DP because he honestly saw her as one of his best mates and, he says, if something as life changing as having a baby happened to her there's no way he'd just drop her from his life and show no interest whatsoever in her child.
DP reckons they just don't get that you can actually have a child and still be the same person. He's been disappointed by their shallowness but accepts that that's the way things are. I do too but was still quite upset when a mutual friend told me the other night that the girl who I just mentioned (the little sister one) had been ranting about me when I was pregnant - moaning about how they had lost DP now, that I had succeeded in trapping him and that I had been taking drugs while pregnant (I most certainly did not!). I feel quite hurt and can't stop thinking about this. I KNOW it doesn't matter now but can't help feeling shocked and upset. Ok, she's DP's friend and not mine but I tried really hard with her, thought we got on reasonably well and now I'm stunned to hear that she's said these things about me.
Sorry it's so long 
Thanks for reading.