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in thinking,you're my ex,you treated me very badly so why the fuck are you sending me a friends request??

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BumWiper · 06/06/2011 09:35

Thats all.

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GypsyMoth · 06/06/2011 09:36

oh i got that too....its nosiness

SnuffleTurtle153 · 06/06/2011 09:39

I got that too. Ashamed to say that rather than simply pressing 'ignore' I replied with a list of reasons why I hope that girl he cheated on me with gives him genital herpes and his knob falls off and he dies a lonely old man wearing the same pissy parker he's had for 10 years in a back alley clutching my photograph and weeping I wouldn't be accepting his request. Which I rather think made me look like a bit of a dick. So don't do that. Just ignore.

ZXEightyMum · 06/06/2011 09:40

Grin at Snuffle especially the bit about the photograph.

GypsyMoth · 06/06/2011 09:41

accept it in the dead of night.....have a good look at his profile and wall and photos......then delete him as a friend immediately!!

BumWiper · 06/06/2011 09:45

Im PML'ing here.
I've no desire to nosy into his life.Its been 11 years since we broke up.We have no mutual friends and I've changed my surname and my profile picture is of my goldfish.So how did he know it was me????

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SnuffleTurtle153 · 06/06/2011 09:46

Ooooh that's creepy...

Ask him!

vmcd28 · 06/06/2011 09:47

Agree with tiffany. Block him as soon as you've looked at his photos etc. :)

TragicallyHip · 06/06/2011 09:49

Maybe you were tagged in a photo and he saw you that way?

I'd block him, after having a good nosey!

JanMorrow · 06/06/2011 09:55

You can search by email address so if you haven't changed that in years that'll be how he found you. It'll also show up on his feed if you accept, even if you delete 5 mins later, so just ignore!

BumWiper · 06/06/2011 09:56

Very doubtful Tragic.

I don't want to look at his photo's or read his info.Maybe he's hoping I'm single and desperate Grin.

I'd hump the bedpost before going back to him.

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BumWiper · 06/06/2011 09:59

I have always had a seperate email for FB since I joined about two years ago.I do have a distinctive first name though but without my currant surname there are a good few of the same first name.

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ZXEightyMum · 06/06/2011 10:00

I wonder how he knew?

Did you have a goldfish when you were with him eleven years ago? Not the same one obviously.

Perhaps he is overcome with remorse and desperately sending requests to everyone with your first name.

worraliberty · 06/06/2011 10:03

Perhaps it's not you he wants to be friends with but your goldfish?

Does your profile info make it completely clear that you are in fact a human and not a fish?

TragicallyHip · 06/06/2011 10:04

Are you friends with any of his friends? He must have been searching for you then.

Block him and don't go humping the bed post. Might cause yourself an injury Grin

BumWiper · 06/06/2011 10:05

Oh thats funny ZX.

[wonders how many Naoise's are looking at his friends request and thinking who the fuck is that?]

We didn't have any pets,no clues at all to show its me.

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TragicallyHip · 06/06/2011 10:06

Oops just saw that you don't have any mutual friends!

MooMooFarm · 06/06/2011 10:06

Agree completely. For me it wasn't an ex who treated me 'badly' as such, more just a couple of exes who wanted to be my 'friend' despite splitting up at least 15 years ago. In both cases we split because it wasn't working for loads of reasons, didn't choose to stay friends, and have had no contact for all that time. And both sent the request late at night.

Personally I just assumed they were fishing around for a fuck buddy and declined the requests Grin

BumWiper · 06/06/2011 10:07

Oh I'm going to have to enter Steve and Phillip into the witness protection programe.

That would be the fish.

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TragicallyHip · 06/06/2011 10:08

'Fishing' around MooMoo, that'll be the picture of the goldfish then Grin

thingsabeachanging · 06/06/2011 10:11

I accepted my dubious ex friend request because my facebook shows the following-

I met Dh mere months after our s@!tty relationship ended.

I now have 2 degrees.

A job I have been in years.

A gorgeous wonderful Husband complete with great wedding pics.

We have our own property.

And best of all I have a stunningly lovely child.

(Look my life is far from perfect and we all have our issues but I am not gonna put that on facebook for the world to see)

Meanwhile he is single, lonely, jobless (for the most part) and living with his mum! And he is not getting any better looking as what is quite obviously alcohol dependancy is taking its toll.

Can you believe HE thought he was better than ME

katvond · 06/06/2011 10:52

Block block block block block
Simples

TotallyLovely · 06/06/2011 12:28

When I joined facebook I clicked a box I shouldn't have and it sent friend requests to everyone in my email address book! Maybe the same happened.

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