Am I or is DH?

[SixtyFootDoll]

DH announces today that he is doing a charity bike ride next weekend (involves staying overnight fri and sat).
we both work shifts and I am working days (0700-1900) both days.
He looks after our two sons when I work.
So I ask him who is going to look after the boys, he just looks at me blankly. I think he assumed I would ask my Mum, I won't be, she has them a lot anyway.

Then he says he will get his mother down to stay for the weekend.
His mum can't drive so won't be able to take the boys to their activites. She also doesn't help out much so I will have to cook for her and entertain her when I get in from work, which quite frankly can't be bothered with after a 12 hr shift.

And don't be sucked into the charity thing, he hasn't got any sponsorship, did the same ride 2 yrs ago and didn't raise any money then either, just went along for the ride.
So whats the verdict.?

Oh and I don't mind him going away normally, he was away last month on a golfing weekend.

YANBU Stay strong and don't give in to his sulking.

DoMeDon, I agree with the op about not asking her mum to baby-sit. I wouldn't ask mine either - not in this situation. My mum does more than enough for me, and if I was to ask her to baby-sit, it would be so me and dh could have a very rare evening out, not to allow dh to go on a jaunt while I worked. No way.
OP, This is yet another situation where it's up to the mum to deal with the child-care etc. What would your dh say if you just arranged an overnight next weekend at a spa, without checking with him first, and without considering the kids? I'm willing to bet he'd think you were being completely unreasonable

Don't give in OP.

Can't quite get my head around these dads who think that they can carry on life as if they weren't parents at all and just assume that some one else will run around after them mopping up the mess.

Tell him he can go PROVIDED he arranges childcare that doesn't disrupt your DC's weekends

Yes vmcd - my mum had the kids for 2 days in half term , so i could go to work.
I ask her now and again to have them so DH and I can go out, I don't want her to look after them for 2 long days so he can go off on his bike.

SixtyFootDoll - the outcome was his own making - he should have been more organised and gave you more warning/sorted childcare himself.

If he sulks well tough - don't let him make you out to be the 'bad guy' mind!