To report my neighbour to the HA!

[keepingupwiththejoneses]

A bit of a back story to this really. She has reported me a number of times for the most stupid of things things. She has had the police out over my ds's playing football in the back garden, middle of the afternoon. had the environmental health out over the position of my wheely bins, tried to say that they had caused an outbreak of maggots in her hallway carpet. Called out the HA officers out for where my car is parked, the time my ds leaves for school, 8am and that my dh runs his van for 5 mins in the winter mornings to warm it up and defrost the windows! She refused to let us replace our fence in between our gardens, even though part of it had fallen down, the HA replaced it themselves in the end under health and safety. Even so she has no problem knocking hell out of out door at midnight so see if we have a box for a sick hedgehog or 6am because she has seen someone in our cul-de-sac who 'doesn't belong'.
Anyway to get to the point, I have never complained to the HA about her but when they came out over the fence they told me if she does anything I think is out of order then I should contact them straight away. About an hour ago, 5.30, ds2 and 3 where playing on the trampoline and ok where being a bit noisey, ds2 had adhd and ds3 has autism, I was sitting in the garden chair out of her sight. She came out into her back garden and shouted "Jesus christ ds2 keep the f'ing noise down" ds2 stopped and said "yes sorry" she then said "yes, keep the f'ing noise down, stupid kid." and walked back into her house.
I know this is not acceptable but is it worth reporting her for. I don't want to confront her as I know she will try and report me for being aggressive towards her as she has every time I have tried in the past.

Chaz I hope they do do something about her, I can only imagine it getting worse as ds's and her getting older. She is in late 50's now.

You are being very unreasonable. If you didn't want to live in crappy Housing Authority schemes you should have got a proper job.

shfiv I don't live in a HA scheme I own my house. The street where I live is about 50/50 owned v HA.

Shtiv please don't let facts get in the way of your prejudice...now trot along there's a dear...

How old is she? - she might have a mental health/neurological condition that has gone undiagnosed. It is very odd behaviour. Not just antisocial.

Sounds like it's best to move if that isn't too inconvenient for you. Terrible next door neighbours can make one's life hell. By all means inform the HA, but I'm not familiar with the things they can or can't do, sorry.

Just found the answer to my question, sorry - yes, 50's. That would be a very plausible age for developing a new onset psychiatric or neurological condition causing her to behave like this. Unfortunately if she does have a condition (and isn't simply being a mean person), it will get worse if untreated. So moving might have to be an option to consider seriously, depending on how frequent her outbreaks of odd behaviour are.

youarekidding - yes, there are areas where a HA building can be right next to a privately owned one. Our area is one of them. Some towns are trying to get rid of estates and just prefer to have HA housing mixed in among privately owned homes.

SHTIV . The OP owns her house. Report your neighbour to the Housing Association who she rents from. Surely it is up to them to sort the problem. Are you the only one to have a problem?

We had neighbours who made bogus complaints about us to the council at one point. They didn't like us - because we were students.

The council were very sympathetic, and suggested we make a counter complaint for harassment. We didn't, as we didn't want to risk inflaming things, but I think in your case I might think about it.

Be a little careful- if you want to sell dont you have to disclose all neighbourly disputes these days?

SHTIV- Did you get a crappy job because you need to learn to read.

Nothing wrong with HA or social housing

allthefires, I think you're right that such things must now be disclosed -BUT- a positive spin can be put on it. If the OP complains to the HA and it is successfully dealt with (and their asking OP to complain every time bodes quite well for them doing so), then the next-door house having a supportive landlord who is helpful could be looked upon as a real plus. As it stands, the neighbour has already made selling the house difficult, so a neighbour dispute on file cannot be worse.

I would report everything as the HA seem to be aware that there is a problem and they may be able to get her to wind her neck in or even move her. Sounds to me that she might have a bit of a screw loose but that really is not your problem if she is being a PITA and your dc's cant even use the garden and make normal children noise. good luck.

southofthethames She has been like this for the 10 years that we have lived there and from all accounts she was like that before we moved there. She has new neighbours on the otherside, the old ones, who died, never spoke to her because of the upset that she had caused before we moved in.
She is selfish and everything is about her, 'why don't I consider her when I do a, b, c' type thing. Then in the next breath say's 'I don't care if your kids need fresh air, I don't want them to' it can be exhausing.
I am waiting for the area officer to get back to me.

I've dealt with a housing scheme/authority before, when I lived in my old house. The two buildings next to mine were owned by the scheme and consisted of several bedsits and flats. We were encouraged to report anti-social behaviour to them, as the tenants usually had restricted tenancies. Breach of certain rules meant they were in breach of their tenancy and could be removed from the property.

From what I know, they prefer to know about the crap going on, as it enables them to better control their housing stock and prevent major issues. Have a chat with her other neighbour, and see if they are also reporting the upleasant behaviour. If so, eventually the HA might then have enough 'ammunition' to deal with your neghbour properly.

Good luck.

In that case I have run out of possibilites as to why she is being so bonkers

Best of luck sorting it though.

Either report her to the HA or the police: I think you'd have a pretty good case under The Public Order Act, Section 5

Did she abbreviate to f'ing or did you on her behalf?

love its your garden your children can shout as much as they want its what it is for, i dont ever stop my children playing unless they are screaming for no reason or some such. i would ignore her personally and not stoop to her lvl. the ha obviously know she is a loon otherwise they wouldnt have said to you to report her.

OP - she does sound strange to the point of abnormal! But even if she is "ill", there's no reason for you and your family to just accept it. You did the right thing reporting it. Hope you get some peace and quiet soon, whatever measure it is that the HA take. There's also the police and the Public Order Act, on the occasions when she's really bad - www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/1986/64/contents