hi I'm Rachel a 35 year old mum and am unfortunately one of those competitive sporty types. I was a track cyclist for 20 years had 3 children in my early 20s so really proud of keeping it up. Anyway I wanted a change. My son Matt is 15 and has been doing Brazilian jiu jitsu (bjj) for 5 years. His instructed eventually roped me into training a year ago and I love it. It's basically like ground grappling where you use submissions on your opponent. If they tap out it's all over. (sounds aggressive and mean but it's not I promise . It's more like a chess game) . Anyway Matt has. Obviously kicked my butt in training as he's a bit taller and more experienced. We are now the same belt so got drawn against each other last night in a local club comp. I surprised everyone including myself but managed to tap him out using my legs (the only positives of having big cyclists thighs is that you can squeeze a bear into submission with them) in the first minute of the match. Anyway I was really pleased with my achievment as put in a lot of practice to get to this point. My son showed such a great temperament by shaking my hand after the match. Is there anything wrong with this mum son little bit of competitiveness? We actual are good training partners and as I'm a single mum we wrestle all the time. (he's getting big so the only way I can beat him is to sit on him and pin his arms down) does any of you have the same relationship with your son?