Ex never takes kids out, ex has mild special needs along with our son (he is on the ASD spectrum. He is lively and unpredictable with many many food allergies.. Over the years i have managed to train/show ex how to cope with son as best as he can because they also clash too and daughter to has different allergies.. ex is now really good within my home looking after them, but i buy all the food so he knows they are safe to give to the kids. Ex can not remember things and puts it down to i have not told him or anything that puts the blame back on me, ex is really poor at looking for dangers that you get used to as a parent of a sen child.. whenever we have all gone out within 2 hours ex has either got very aggresive himself because he cant get son to do what he wants or he just does not bother and then my son goes out of control and can be a danger to himself (running in the road, speradic behaviour) etc. You have to be on top of my son all the time, but ex cant do that so it all escalates.. Ex now wants to take son and daughter from the family home to his new girlfriends, i am very scarred that sons safety and food allergies will not be considered very high and that i will have to nurse the two when they are back home. Girl frind has never dealt with sen kids or multiple food allergies.. he has told me that he will just start taking them out even if i agree or not.. and that he has rights etc..
can anyone help.. my issue really is not the kids meeting his new girlfriend its sheer terror of the lack of care..
Am i being unreasonable? :o(